I dont know how to help my daughter!

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My daughter aged 13 has a big group of friends, generally speaking they are a lovely bunch of kids. Within this she has one best friend called Ann, her and Ann have been really close for years. Since starting secondary school they have become friends with Lisa all bumbled along nicely for a bit then Lisa started sidelining my daughter and become possessive and at time a little strange towards Ann. Ann over time has become more and more friendly with Lisa, where Lisa can be a bit mean towards
My daughter. (Its all a little strange tbh)

The dynamics have slowly changed around the girls and the whole group in general.
Fast forward to now.. Ann told my daughter something in confidence, it's only a minor thing but asked her not to repeat it. Lisa asked my daughter about it implying she know and through time my daughter ended up agreeing/going along with it.

Several of the girls found out i think through Lisa who told them. Ann has been going off crying, missing school and blaiming my daughter for going around telling everyone.

My daughter is devastated. I think it would be best to keep away from both these girls even Ann, its just not worth it.
I think these kind of things are going to continue because of the strange dynamics and its just becoming toxic.
What would you do in this situation? How would you advice her?

that sounds like a tough situation for your daughter. What does she want to happen with the friendships? If she wants to rebuild her relationship with Ann then she could go to her house and explain face to face what happened, apologise for her part in it and explain that she really didn’t intend to hurt or upset Ann and explain how she values their relationship. It’s then up to Ann to mull things over and decide what she wants to do. The rest of the friendships do sound a little toxic.

Teawithfrenchtoast
Thank you. She just wants her best friend back! She has told her she hasn't done that! Personally I think things have shifted in the friendship or theres more to it. Its honestly a massive over reaction on Ann's part! She should know my daughter didn't do that as that's not the behaviour she has ever displayed before through out their friendship.

I dont want my daughter to beg for a friendship, she's worth more than that! And has meany more fiends.

Ann told my daughter that she needed space, so ive advised her to leave her alone and respect her wishes.

I also know Ann's parents well. They are a lovely family, but parent in a very different way to me.

What I would like to do is check my daughters phone and see what messages are being sent/received. Ideally with out her realising.

So tbh I don't think going around would be the best thing. I also wonder if it would be best just to advice her to step away from the friendship, I feel as if she's in a bit of a triangle with Ann and Lisa and its become toxic. There have been many issues before with Lisa. She's a girl I'm a bit weary off as she's been pretty nasty in the past. I feel as if my daughter can be on the receiving end of of this as she's jealous of how close Lisa and my daughter are.
I do wonder if this situation has been slightly set up by Lisa or if she's just managed to benefit from it?

Teawithfrenchtoast
Thank you. She just wants her best friend back! She has told her she hasn't done that! Personally I think things have shifted in the friendship or theres more to it. Its honestly a massive over reaction on Ann's part! She should know my daughter didn't do that as that's not the behaviour she has ever displayed before through out their friendship.

I dont want my daughter to beg for a friendship, she's worth more than that! And has meany more fiends.

Ann told my daughter that she needed space, so ive advised her to leave her alone and respect her wishes.

I also know Ann's parents well. They are a lovely family, but parent in a very different way to me.

What I would like to do is check my daughters phone and see what messages are being sent/received. Ideally with out her realising.

So tbh I don't think going around would be the best thing. I also wonder if it would be best just to advice her to step away from the friendship, I feel as if she's in a bit of a triangle with Ann and Lisa and its become toxic. There have been many issues before with Lisa. She's a girl I'm a bit weary off as she's been pretty nasty in the past. I feel as if my daughter can be on the receiving end of of this as she's jealous of how close Lisa and my daughter are.
I do wonder if this situation has been slightly set up by Lisa or if she's just managed to benefit from it?