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Am I unreasonable to feel annoyed about the TV being controlled?

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Disgruntled67tv · 07/05/2026 21:58

Watching TV with OH. For context usually OH comes in from work when I’m cooking tea and sits down and watches TV within about 15m of coming home, today they were home first so tv was on already when I got home (I also work full time but come home and sort the house out etc straight away)

the show they were watching finishes and there is 30 minutes before something we are watching as a family. So I say, can I put on something I'm watching on my own for 30 minutes (it’s a series of 6 episodes each 60 min long) they said no I don’t want to watch then leaves the tv on the channel that was on already ( soap which we have never watched) and starting to play games on phone. After ten minutes I commented that as neither of us was watching it, what was the issue with me watching half an episode… the response was that they turned off the tv saying they don’t want to watch it… then when I commented that they were being controlling they said something pretty nasty in response so I left the room.
I’m feeling pretty annoyed.

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FungibleAssets · 08/05/2026 08:03

The TV isn’t the issue, OP.

Lurkingandlearning · 08/05/2026 09:57

If he doesn't see any reason to share the cooking and cleaning, why would he share the TV with you. He is not a good husband, he isn't even a nice person.

Disgruntled67tv · 08/05/2026 21:08

Thank you all for your responses. I’ve had the day to cool off and a lot of valid points which I’m mulling over.
Not speaking to him after last nights behaviour and taken myself to a different room as the tv is on, dug out some earphones and happily listening to some podcasts as suggested but tomorrow I’m taking myself out of the equation for the day and leaving him to it with the kids. He will do stuff if asked but I resent having to ask, thankfully my eldest (older teen) is really helpful and intuitively helps without being asked. And they know how much I appreciate this. Time to put myself first and get more help even if I will have to spell it out. And no I won’t be asking again if I want to watch something..

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