I'd been seeing someone fairly casually for a few weeks - someone I knew years ago so we were able to skip the getting to know you, etc. parts. We had a really good time but the weekend before last he started replying less and less - when I asked him about it he said he'd had a mad one celebrating an event with friends, but it didn't get better during the week last week. We agreed to see each other Sunday just gone but I had a spidey sense that he would cancel and/or just wasn't feeling it so I got in there first and said let's just end it here. He played it very much like 'oh ok I'm sorry it hasn't worked out, if that's what you want, etc.' - not really but I'm saving myself the heartache here!
He left some stuff at mine so we've been arranging to get it back to him. He now decides to say that he just wants to be on his own and also he's been having some issues with his [3] kids and they're his priority' - starting the message with 'I told you last week...' erm no you didn't as it was me who ended it? This was followed with 'I told you last week, I didn't think I needed to go into detail...'
I've literally not had one message from him saying he wanted to end it/break things off/not see me anymore - just silence! The gaslighting it off the scale!
Just why? Why are they like this?! I'm 40 years old and thinking I might just give up entirely as they genuinely never seem like they ever grow up!