Partner to my daughter? Silent treatment??

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Hey, I can’t sleep I need someone to
talk to, my ex or current I don’t even know, we haven’t spoken all weekend due to a big bust up, basically of me saying how I felt about him not showing me he loves me etc to a woman in a pub and he over heard, he then ignored me the whole night and I left crying.
anyway we have spoken about our daughter that’s it over the weekend he had her while I worked.
Today I have tried with him and it’s come to me trying because he literally shows no effort when we fall out sometimes I get the silent treatment until I beg for him to stay with me.
he has been giving me something a little bit saying he has not just walked away from me? He has been out drinking today and tonight but tonight he has read my messages of me begging him saying I love him I need to know if we are ok and he still loves me and I have been ignored completely :( I just don’t get it what do I do? I’m so stressed? It comes to this quite often where i am left begging him to stay with me after a disagreement but this time it’s worse because he has read my messages and ignored me :( I’m so scared about being on my own and how im going to work as he picks my oldest two up from school who are not his which won’t happen now 😞😭

The fact you’re begging him when he gives you the silent treatment is why he gets away with treating you like this . You’re telling him that basically he can treat you badly and you’ll still beg him to come back . He’s punishing you by ignoring you knowing that it will hurt you . I understand your feelings but know your worth . He doesn’t respect you because you don’t respect yourself because you allow him to treat you this way . Stop begging . So ringing him . He knows you’re in pain and he’s ok with that . Ask yourself, do you want to be with a man who treats you like this ?

Silent treatment is abuse, and you deserve better. Don't beg. Change the locks and tell him goodbye.

He is vile to you, yet you leave him in sole charge of your children. Aren't you worried about him doing the same to them?

Stop begging him to stay with you - if he treats you like this, you're better off without him. You can arrange other childcare, that's not a good enough reason to stay with this arsehole.

You have given him the green light to keep on abusing you by begging and crying and seyhim messages. Can't you see your behaviour is that of a victim. Change your behaviour if you want him to change his. Personally I can't see why you'd way to stay with a man who is so vile towards you. Raise your bar. Stop being afraid of being alone. You are not alone as you have your DC anyway.

Stop begging. You’ve got into a hopeless cycle where he knows he can treat you like shit and you’ll put up with it. This relationship is completely broken. End it. Walk away. Limit your contact to co-parenting.

I don’t want to be harsh but a clinging, crying, begging person is not attractive and it’s hard to respect someone like this. Act your age and end it if you don’t like his behaviour. It sounds like you only want him to stay because he babysits anyway.

Why are you begging someone who treats you like crap??
Seriously, raise the bar. You just come across as needy and frankly a bit wet. Sorry.

Nobody is going to react well to hearing them being slagged off to random people

the problem with demands and confrontation they often push people away

I grew up in a violent conflict fuelled environment run on fear
I can’t stand anything like this and whilst it may come across as silent treatment I just withdraw completely and don’t engage with it

honestly why beg if you have to ask for it it’s not meant with any sentiment

What’s he like normally is there any displays of a did he previously say he loved you

This. What kind of example are you setting to your kids? Dump the emotionally abusive loser and work on your self esteem.

The first post nails it really. Stop begging him. Stop messaging him. A clingy, needy, begging person isn't attractive. It shows that you have such a low self-esteem and that you are willing to put up with being treated badly. There's no consequences for him, for treating you badly. Your relationship sounds toxic. Take charge, end the relationship and learn to co-parent with him.

He's being horrible. Try to get some counselling, even a few sessions, to find a way forward for you and your children.