Dating someone whose divorce is not yet finalised in his sixties

[LadyMaine]

I've been dating a guy for six weeks. We are both in our mid sixties. Before we meet in person told me he had been divorced for three years. We spent the day together today and talked in more detail, it turns out he has his degree nisi but not his decree absolute because the financial settlement is still being sorted out. He lives alone and apart from this issue we get on really well.

Any thoughts?

So he lied?

wouldn’t touch him with a barge pole

How long have they been separated?

Disrespectful to lie to you.
I wouldn’t give him a second chance.

Liar. No second chance.

This happened to a friend of mine.
She had the decree nisi, she and her ex had both bought new separate houses, but they were waiting for the financial order to be signed off by the courts before they could get the absolute, something to do with their pensions. Delayed it by about 9 months, but they were very much divorced in every other aspect.

Depends if the divorce started 3 years ago, I think.

If they've been separated years, actively divorcing and it's just not yet finalised then I think I'd be OK with it.

If he's not bothering to pursue the final steps, then I'd feel differently about it.

I wouldn't throw him back, but would keep it at the front of my mind and see how things develop x

I don't necessarily think he's a liar. Not if they're living apart and have the decree nisi. He sees himself as divorced maybe. He's clarified on the first date.
If you like him, proceed with caution, I think.
Just so long as the divorce is being finalised.

He’s is on the rebound and looking for anyone to soothe his ego. He lied at first because you wouldn’t have met up with him had you known six weeks ago and in all probability he has lied about many things to appear relationship ready.

Someone who just doesn't get things done, or is lying. Even the first is not an attractive trait, you'd end up doing all the things in life such as booking a holiday.

Lying is so unattractive.