Have you ever felt you’ve outgrown a friend?

[cheesysitwots]

What to do when you feel like you’ve outgrown a friend?
i have a friend- we’ve been friends for years. I just feel our values in life are not the same. I find her quite shallow. She is either talking herself up or putting other people down. She’s judgemental and judges people about very trivial things. She can be patronising and makes digs too. I’ve just been finding her very uptight and boring recently. What to do?

Back away...let it die out. We do grow out of friends.

😂 She's the judgemental one?

It does sound like she's not very happy. A good friend would find out if she's OK.

Dislike ‘outgrown’, it seems egotistical. you don’t like her any more, due to her behaviour - fair enough.

YANBU, I wouldn’t want to be around such negativity either.
I would lessen contact and slowly back away.

They say that people are in your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime, and I’ve found that to be true.
I think it’s ok to meet less and have gradually less contact with friends you are finding you have less in common with.
Just make sure you’re keeping your side of the street clean.

I have grown apart not from a friend, but a sister as we’ve grown older. We used to be very close but we’ve gradually dwindled away from each other over the last few years. Our parents are dead, there’s not much that connects us.

It really doesn’t bother me. I have extremely close friends that I am confident will always be so, but not all relationships have to be lifelong.

I think when we're younger we think people may change as they mature or we just accept them for who they are. But as we get older we are less keen to put up with their sh*t . Especially if they are insulting etc. I have a school friend for decades who I no longer want a relationship with. Her personality is getting less bearable as she ages. Maybe she feels the same about me, who knows 🤷‍♀️ I just can't be bothered putting effort in anymore.

Yes. A friend of mine who i met when they were disillusioned about their work and always talked about travel, leaving their company to move to a better job. I met them at a time where i had friends but no connections where i felt like people really cared about me, found them very intelligent and hung onto their words which turned into them knowing best for me.
Years passed and I realised slowly that they were someone who was told they were very smart growing up and had clung onto that as a sense of superiority, and a way to justify why they never went travelling or changed jobs, despite having the means to do so way easier than most people. It was 'yes, but im going to, and could quite easily, im better than this' but never actually doing it, instead hiding in their comfort zone. And me letting them boss me around contributed to that sense of superiority and control.
I stopped agreeing with everything they said, and things turned nasty very quick. They are still rotting in the same place they were 10 years ago, still complaining about their workplace and thinking they are superior.