Would it bother you if your partner watched sex shows on lads trip?

[DeftMintBalonz]

partner recently back from a lads holiday to Benidorm - would it bother you if your partner was watching the live sex shows out there?

I feel a bit disrespected as had no idea this was part of the plan. A bit icky imo.

I wouldn't feel disrespected personally, more just confused why he'd want to go to one as they're naff as anything.

But it doesn't really matter how anyone here feels, it's how you feel.

Yes. I would dump.

Yes. What a sleaze.

100% agree

If hes freely told you this, its almost certain it wont have just been a tacky "sex show" they went to. Men who do pathetic stuff like this tend to think if they admit to doing something very shit its believable thats all they did.

He’s not a gentleman.

Partner not dh? Any shared finances, kids etc? If he's just a bf I'd get rid, I bet they did far more than watch.

It's well known its not the norm for snagging on stags in Europe but for a lot of English men, it is.

Or in other words would it bother me that my partner was happy to participate in the sexual exploitation of women.
Hell yes. If he can’t see it for what it really is I don’t want him.

I personally would not date a guy who is in a friendship circle with people like that.

Going against the grain here, if it was one off on a lads trip can’t say it’s something I’d get worked up about. Having said that, if he was aware of how you feel about such things and crossed your boundaries then that’s a discussion you have to have with him and take it from there.

Yep. I would dump.

Exactly 💯 this.

I wouldn't be with someone who would go to these sorts of shows or any type of strip club. I find it sleezy and quite gross .... and it would be a complete no no for me.

Even watching a movie when there is a sex scene, my partner looks at me and says my boobs are the only boobs he wants to see.

Any bloke who had such a lack of respect for women could sling his hook.
Life's too short to waste it on sleazy, grubby misogynists.

There is a lot of pressure for guys to go along. On a mates one 9 years ago I was the only I think not to have a lap dance in the place we were in, even now it gets joked about. I just didnt feel right doing it and it does take balls to stand up for that especially after a few beers.

But I would not tell my partner not to go to a strip act if she was on a hen do or something. As long as its just that, viewing with a bunch of mates no harm is done

Did you really not think strip clubs and sex workers would be on the cards, surely the group of arseholes going had form for this kind of behaviour?

It doesn't 'take balls' to refuse this stuff imo. I'm sure if they were all keen to go and do something incredibly boring you'd have no issue saying 'ah no I'll pass see you back at the hotel', no balls required?

My personal view is I am not fussed by it. I don't have some of the moral outrage some do, but likewise have no desire to partake. If people want to thats up to them) assuming its all legal etc... Yes, the 'talk' was about going to a lap dancing club but you dont HAVE to partake. Could still enjoy a beer and banter with mates, who are not arseholes, just normal people.

And I think it does take balls sometimes - to be the odd one out in a group. As for something boring, no, I would not have seen them back at the hotel. Am not into golf for example but if it was a golf themed thing I would have done it. The activities are simply a vehicle for the day.

I didnt have a stag do for my wedding, just because I am not keen on them. I love pubs and drinking but spending loads on travel and other stuff does not appeal. IF I was to get married again and IF I had a stag do it would simply be a night at the local.

The issue with these ‘shows’ in Benidorm is that you’re literally stood in a bar and they start happening on the dance floor behind you, it happened twice to us (on a girls trip) that we didn’t know was the case (once the segways, another was a naked woman with indoor fireworks) we didn’t specifically ‘go’ to see a sex show or even to a place advertising them, it was just a normal bar with a dj, then for 15 mins a ‘show’ was on, and then the dj was back.

'Could still enjoy a beer and banter with mates, who are not arseholes, just normal people'

If your pals use women for lapdances they are indeed arseholes. Many men manage to have stag dos without exploiting women for their own pathetic titillation.

I watched the Star Wars Segway sex show in Benidorm…the performers are husband and wife and seem to enjoy their jobs very much 🤣

We only ended up in Benidorm on a girly trip after putting five of the tackiest places we could think of in a hat and booking a holiday to the one that came out 🙈