Has anyone ever moved out and saved their relationship? Tell me your stories please.

[Monkeytrousers]

I am going to look at a lovely (small) cottage literally 50 yards away from our house with a view to move in and get the space from each other that I think we need.

It's a last ditch effort to save our relationship as I really don;t htink we can see the wood for the trees living under the same roof and I am very weary of the boom or bust nature of our relationship, which DP seems to thive on.

Hopefully this will give us the space to rediscover each other again as individuals, whilst still being able to be a family for DS. At worst, it will be a dress rehersal to see how we could financially manage a real split, which I can only think of as another positive really.

Anyone had a similar experience?

That's the hope Expat..

I will broach it with Dp tomorrow...unless I bottle it..maybe wait till I have seen the house on Monday..

Monkeytrousers - No experience but if your current arrangement isn't working then surely it's worth a go? Good luck with it, I really hope things work out for you all. x

Ta Swedes.

good luck MT let us know how ur getting on

will do

We did it for over a year, and we're still together.

OH moved out to live at his office space because it was that or split, and a few weeks later I found out I was pregnant again.

During the whole pregnancy and for about 8 months afterwards we lived in separate places but saw each other every day. In fact he stayed over regularly but having that space meant that we could really assess whether we wanted to be together or not and we decided that we did.

We've since moved to a new town and things are going well - partly because I feel loads better about myself so I react to him differently and also because I'm out most nights at the gym or classes and so we get our own space that way.

Oh thanks MrsPunt. I am quite independent, but not as much as I was. I have three jobs - I dont; go to the gym as have a cross trainer at home but have been thinking about it now that I can afford it.

Not working did do my head in big time - well not working at something i liked, which has changed now.

DP would love us to have another baby - he feels his biologicall clock - or 'our' biologial clock more than I do, but I just cant cross my fingers and hpe for the best. He buries stress so deep he ends up choking on it and another baby would just be frying pan/fire scenario.