Gave birth in March 26, husband found on dating apps

[boredinmy30s]

Hi all, need advice
Been together 4 years married 6 months. First baby of us both was born March 2026, complicated birth which led to a three week hospital stay with severe health issues which meant I almost didn’t make it out alive. Cut a long story short, had an argument where I snapped after verbal Abuse during pregnancy and during hospital stay including birth.

husband hasn’t spoken to me in 19 days and not seen baby either. Has got several services involved including lawyers involved with letter sent that he wants contact with baby - hasn’t been stopped seeing the baby.
husband has adhd and other mental health issues which he is unmedicated and has refused to get help for or seek support.

was sent his dating profile this evening, photos are old or I’ve seen before but most recent picture uses our wedding picture.

Ironically I was looking at Couples counselling for us to go to try and reconcile as I would like to.

What do I do now?

You leave. You stay left. He’s grubby as fuck. Give the baby your name. Make him do all the running.
He’s more interested in getting his end away than he is in you and your child.

This

Unfortunately baby has already been registered. We are married albeit only 7 months. Has his surname 😢💔

God, how is it that every MN thread has “This.” as the second comment regardless of whatever shite “advice” has been dished out?

Do not leave. He leaves. And do not wait for “him to do all the running”. There is no running to do. You stay in your home for now with your baby, you divorce and make sure you get what’s fair, then you move on and thank your lucky stars you found out he was an arsehole so early on.

I hope you've got people irl you can turn to.
Such a heart wrenching discovery when you've been through so much.💐

What a nasty piece of shit
what’s your housing / finance/ work /situation?
most solicitors offer 30 mins free advice
don’t let him call the shots

It beggars belief you nearly die giving birth to his child and his response instead of taking care of you and baby and being glad you did not die, is getting on a dating app. What a loser he is. Stay put in house with baby. Make sure you go to CMS so he has to pay towards baby. Book up to see a solicitor. There is no way he will make a good husband and father.