BACKGROUND: I’m a student nurse, work 39 hours per week unpaid, part of my nursing degree. Also work part time as a domestic cleaner. Also a single Mum to my almost 16 year old daughter. Been with my partner for 3 years. Trying to also complete two 3000 word assignments in the meantime.
ISSUE: My partner is also a Dad of one. His child (aged 12) has got to the age where she much prefers to stay at her Mums so she can continuously play online with her boyfriend. Although she could do that ours but in a shared room with my daughter. He was always for making time for her, until recent times (6 months). I was the type to ask when do we have her during holidays ect, just so I knew since he never had off. But he would always say why put a time on things, and therefore always give me crap for asking. Never his ex partner though. Instead now she doesn’t want to come, he’s always working over time, all the time. Not much help around the house. Works 10-12 hours per day, come homes, maybe cooks a quick tea, showers and watches television for 3 hours on an evening before falling asleep. Me on the other hand, will work a 13 hour shift, maybe grabs tea on way home and starts/finishes washing, tidies round, irons etc.
When I stress how much I have to do, his reply is always similar to; “you’re only part time” “you’re not even qualified yet” or “you could have changed your hours”.
Some other issues I’d like you to consider before making judgement is:
I will always encourage his daughter coming, infact me and his daughter bounce off one another ( I can be immature, in a fun way).
He would always give me shit because I asked for a time scale during the school holidays, just so I knew what the plan was - but since his daughter doesn’t want to come (she’s at that age - bless her) he doesn’t give shit to her Mum.
I’m confused, how would you feel if this was you?