Worst weekend Ever - Both Kids Relationships Have Ended

[marmitencheese]

Both grown up kids who live with their partners have split up over this weekend.

I’m struggling to cope 😢
Could really do with a hand hold right now.

The saying “you are only as happy as your unhappiest child” is unfortunately true. Are they both looking to come home? Tough one to navigate but make sure you look after yourself too,

That sounds like a lot. Why are you struggling to cope? All you can do is be there for them

Shock, disappointment, worried about their living arrangements. Can’t stop the tears 😢

It’s hard to know what to advise without more details. I imagine you’re in shock tbh.

One has only just relocated and changed job. Now has to find alternative housing.
Yes, I think I’m in shock 😢 already experience low mood before this; I think this is why it has hit hard.

What happened with their relationships? Are they situations that might resolve or have they definitely broken up for good?

I guess your kids are upset. Try to support them. If you’re crying about it to them they won’t feel able to turn to you. I say this kindly. Don’t make this about you.
be strong for them.

I really feel for you. When my marriage broke down it was a huge strain on my parents, I didn’t mean to do it but I was devastated and it was obvious. They worried about me, and they were also devastated as they loved him too..

All I can say is that I deeply appreciate their love and support. Hugs to you.

I agree with this.

I honestly think the constant stress in the news headlines on conflict and potential conflict and consequent price rises is taking up a big quota of peoples bandwidth so they have less left for coping with daily life - then what would have been a tearful row before becomes make or break crisis now

OP am so sorry. As a Mum of three adults I genuinely am as happy as the unhappiest !
Sounds cheesy but true.!

Very tough situation for you BUT all you can do is be there for them and listen. It’s a horrible thing but breakups part of life unfortunately. Remember to take care of yourself also

OP, is this the boyfriend who was cheating on your DD in 2024? If so, it’s not a bad thing they’ve separated.

That’s a lot to deal with at once, so it is understandable you feel overwhelmed. They are both adults and will work through it in time. The best you can do is just be there for them and listen. Also try to look after yourself through it too.

You are making this all about you. I am sorry your children are going through a rough time however please get some perspective on this.

You have absolutely no idea what she has said to the kids, and it's hardly making it all about her to ask for a little moral support so she can support them better.

I don’t see any sign that she’s doing that. She’s doing the right thing and seeking support from people who aren’t affected.

@marmitencheese - what worries you most about this? Were you fond of your kids’ partners? Are you worried about them being alone?

I just wanted some moral support, this is totally not about me, I’m just sad, disappointed and worried for my kids; I was struggling to sleep and thought others might have been through same.

I’ll try answer some questions:

1. I like both Partners - we had good relationships; this is also a loss 😢
2. Partners did not cheat, apologies for any confusion. Unfortunately, the old post is about a previous relationship!
3. I’m very concerned about their living arrangements; one just relocated job although wanted to charge job anyway.
4. I live two plus hours away in different directions, so not around the corner.