Can I assume distance in a new relationship means self-protection?

[Lonelymonster]

So, I’ve been in a situationship for around 2/3 months. When we are together we connect, we enjoy each other, but when we are not, she’s distant (she doesn’t like to message a lot). I’ve been felling insecure and disconnected and I talked about that with her.

For context. After 1 month I introduced her to my friends, in a weekend we sent 2/3 days together (normally it’s 1 or 2 times per week), then on Sunday we add a snap argument and when I got back home she asked for a little space, because things were intense and moving a little to fast. It was a week and then we went to dinner and things were moving better and we are ok.

She is been in an emotional roller coaster because of some friendships she needed to end, plus she got a little scared when se had to took the after morning pill ( it’s safe).

My question is, even so she seems distant some times and doesn’t prioritise being with me, but when we are tougher we are good, can I still assume she wants to be with me and her distance is her trying to protect herself and managing her emotions?

This is the first relationship were I actually can see a future and we can really talk about stuff. So I’m scared off pushing to much.

I think you need to talk to her about this. Anyone else is guessing. If you can’t communicate about the things that matter it’s not really going to work.

You need to speak to her if you want it to progress and have more contact.

We talked about this... she said she understands it and told me that yes, this was moving forward. I just don[t want to have a "check up" relationship talk again... I feel like when we are together and chill enough to talk about it, I don[t want to ruin de moment...

Then try and see her a bit more if thats what you need.

I think you need to back off a bit because she might be feeling a bit of pressure. Just relax and enjoy your time together. You're still new so take it steady.

I would if I could... We have a dinner during the week and when she doesn[t have things with friends/family or even being by herself, we are together on the weekends. I[m the one who is more available..

Hum, I[m afraid if I back off to much, she can "forget" the feeling when we are together... or even think I[m not invested anymore

How ofton do you see her, do you go on dates or stay in?

We meet one day during the week, its dinner at her house and I stay for the other day. On the weekends a mix. But its normally from 2 to 2 weekends... This weekend she said she didn[t woke up not feeling ok, so she didn[t want to meet.
I[m ok with that, we all have those days, but if you like someone, you try and arrange the time right?

Yes you do arrange a time and want to see somewone at the begining of a relationship. Is this a situationship?

doesn't sound good
are you sure shes single?
are you sure shes ready for a relationship?
why did she need the morning after pill. did a condom burst, if it did it could be there was air in it. you need to make sure it’s all squeezed out and the teat bit is floppy.
are you sure shes not pregnant?

Yes, it is. I know that during the week she is busy and logistically can be hard to us to be together. On the weekends its like, if in one day she made the time to be with friends, she could on the other day be with me...
I get it, she isn[t ok, we are still on the beggining and she wants to take things slower... but I make so many films in my head and have insecurities...