Need an outside point of view

[SODAhyun]

I need a reality check. My ex and I broke up in January, and he jumped into a rebound relationship almost immediately. Throughout February, he kept breadcrumbing me, but I didn't give in. On March 6th, he called me to brag about how "sweet" his new girlfriend is and told me I should move on. I set a firm boundary: "I don't want friendship. Do not contact me unless you want to fix things."
Since then, it has been 40 days of no contact. No texts, no story views, nothing. This is the longest we have ever gone without speaking.
After the breakup i vented to his best friend about the breakup on ig dm.
Today, his best friend (who I haven't spoken to since then , we don’t have a friendship ) suddenly activated "Vanish Mode" in our old Instagram DM thread by mistake. He deactivated after 1 second. So this means that he searched my chat and was reading it, he had to specifically search for my name, open a dead chat from months ago, and accidentally toggle the settings while he was in there..
I think that my ex and his friend were together, my name came up, and they were "investigating" my DMs to see my last messages or check my profile. Do you think i am right? or i am just imagining a whole situation in my head

What difference does it make? Your ex has moved on. Move on yourself,and stop venting to his best friend! Are you all in your teens?

Block them both and move on please this is really painful to read

Who cares? Just block him, and his friend, and move on with your life!

I think your ex is making it clear that he's not interested in fixing things and has moved on. In that case, none of that matters. Forget it and move on however is right for you.

You’re definitely inventing a story in your head.

He's your ex. He shouldn't be taking up space in your head and there is absolutely no reason for either of you to be in communication with one another.

Exes are exes for a reason.
Move on and enjoy your life, your ex is not worth it.

Just block them both. You don’t need to be someone’s plan B.

How long where you together?
Stop watching and feeding into the games
Who the hell waits incase he may return.

So if he was interested in fixing things, you'd be open to it? For how long?

You're counting the days of no contact, he's got another girlfriend - do you think this is healthy for you?

What are you doing to move yourself on?

The only thing of interest here and which you should be examining is why YOU are so invested in this. Please move on.

You’re overthinking and creating a imaginary scene in your head..he’s moved on you need to do the same stop boosting his ego if he wanted you he wouldn’t be with someone else..honestly you’re wasting your time move on life is too short to be wasting it over someone who doesn’t care about you

He's not interested in fixing anything, he's moved on and it's time for you to do that too. He is taking up way too much of your headspace if you're counting the days that he hasn't been in contact and looking for a crumb of attention on SM. That's not healthy for you. Block him everywhere and enjoy your life.

Jesus.. you need to move on😂

Gosh you’re getting a bashing! Whilst I don’t understand all the Instagram machinations you are talking about, I do understand that you’re probably wanting him to want to fix things.

I suspect you’re right, they were together and your ears must’ve been burning.

Remember, he is an ex for a reason and unless he comes crawling back, try to hold your head high and try to move past this. And even if he does, to tease you with talk of the new girlfriend is cruel. So forget the shit!

Here is the simple truth @SODAhyun - It doesn't matter. It doesn't matter in the slightest what the friend of even your ex was looking for, what either of them search for ever. There is no hidden meaning, nothing to read into. Since you broke up, it also doesn't matter what your ex is doing. It is his life, it is not intertwined with yours any more, so he can do whatever he feels right, and so can you. This is not a rom com movie where there are schemes in the background and the people who broke up just has to find their way back to each other in the rain. Leave it.
What matters however is that you need to let things go and keep looking backwards. You broke up, that relationship ended, you need to process the loss of that relationship in a healthy way, instead of being fixated on your ex. Look forward, work on what is making you happy. I am not saying it should be easy, but being fixated on something that is dead is not a great look, not healthy for your mental state either. Overthinking these things never result in anything good. Just leave it all.