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Question about Clare's Law

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CrystalsFormingOnTheTop · 23/04/2026 14:40

Hi, not sure if this it the right place to ask? A family member has recently got into a relationship with a man she barely knows, engaged quickly (she was single at start of February and engaged by the end) and planning a wedding to happen asap. (She's constantly trying to compete my with long standing and happy marriage which is another issue in itself but not the point of the post, ha)! I just have a really horrible gut feeling about this person, to be clear, i haven't met him yet, haven't spoken over the phone, only 1 or 2 messages and everything else is heard from my family member.

Anytime he is mentioned or I see his name, I get this horrible feeling in the pit of my stomach, I feel sick and my heart races and I know that sounds extreme and possibly an overreaction but I can't control it. I just feel like here is something off about him.

My gut has never been wrong about people in the past and so I've been thinking i should do a Clare's Law application/request.

My question is, will he be notified of me doing this? Will my family member? I want the information (if there is any) for me not on behalf of family member, would I even be allowed to do it since I'm not the one in a relationship with him?

Thanks for your help.

OP posts:
Dontknowwhattobelieve2 · 23/04/2026 14:58

You can apply for one, but the information would be given to your family member who is in a relationship with this man, if of course there is anything to report back. They wouldn’t be able to give you any of the information.

LicoriceLoops · 23/04/2026 15:22

Dontknowwhattobelieve2 · 23/04/2026 14:58

You can apply for one, but the information would be given to your family member who is in a relationship with this man, if of course there is anything to report back. They wouldn’t be able to give you any of the information.

This, but just to add that neither he or your family member would be informed of who applied.

luckylavender · 23/04/2026 15:24

Your gut can’t really be reacting to someone you haven’t met even if you’re always right.

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