To those newly dating , what does your situation look like and are you happy with it?

[littlebluescissors]

Asking as I am seeing a man for the last two months. We are both divorced with teens and adult kids , living an hour away from each other . Some of our kids live with us for now.
we have met up once or twice per week since we began … for a walk/ dinner/ overnight/ breakfast etc.
we are both busy working full time and both have our own commitments and hobbies.
Maybe I’m thinking too far ahead and I am prone to overthinking, but where has this type of thing gone for you?
Arw you each others priority apart from your kids and work and does it suit you?
Are you both on the same page?
we talk/ text or voice note each day but not excessively and there is a mutual respect for our busy lives.
I just wonder if this sort of arrangement ever builds?
We have said that we are both exclusive and happy with the way things are but apart from some weekends away and events, we do not talk any more about the future.
I have been single for a long time so this dating scene in my 50s is all very new to me.
Thanks for reading .

I am dating someone in a very similar setup except that I have no kids of my own. We see each other a lot - sometimes he will drive up just to have lunch with me before going back to pick up his kid from school and we spend weekends he doesn't have his child together although if one of us has an event linked to our hobbies, we prioritise that.
We do talk about the future in a sense that we already have some trips planned later in the year and there is a talk about when it might be sensible to introduce me to his child (not for a long time but we are still trying to get a sense of how and when it might happen). He is keen to visit my parents and offered to set something up for me to meet his friends.

Aside from that, what future are you referring to? We have no plans of moving in together, I don't particularly want to live with someone full time. We are not having kids together. So a few trips and meeting people in our lives is all the future there is to talk about.

Thanks. Are you together a short time also ?

We've been dating for just over three months.

So you have spent maybe 10 to
15 occassions with each other so far. Just enjoy yourself for now.

My relationship started like this but it was long distance so we saw each other only every two weeks or even less. We started by calling our relationship "the thing that can't a thing" because it all seemed impossible. We didn't talk about any future for two years, and even then it was vague - that we both agreed we would try to stick it out. Four and a half years later we now have a sort of plan to live together in about five years, when my son is over 18.

Take it as it comes. Most of the time I have found this a lovely in between stage, and I appreciate being able to have a romantic relationship which allows me to focus so much on my son at the same time, without any real upheaval to his life.

Thank you and I love this idea . It is just so different to anything I’ve ever had before. I know we’re not building to marriage/ family/ cohabitation because I do not want that although I think he might eventually but it feels a little too ‘organised’ to say the least ..
We meet, have dinner, chat for hours, sleep together, breakfast and relax and then it’s over . It’s just different I guess and may take time to get used to .