New phone needed due to coercive control and complete marriage breakdown.

[ICanStillSayIDontRemember]

Hi, I ended my marriage about 6 weeks ago, still living in same house but need to leave ASAP as coercive and aggressive behaviour has ramped up significantly.

He pays for nearly everything and is going through all my personal belongings I’ve realised. He pays for phone and I’m worried he’s going to take it off me and is also tracking my calls etc.

Has anyone moved to any good deals?
Unlimited data would be a bonus.

Thank you.

Not seen any deals, just want to advise you to not synchronise your old phone to your new one when you get it; you need to make sure the new one can’t be tracked.
Report the aggressive behaviour.
Stay safe OP.

Do you have an old phone or borrow one and just buy a pay as you go sim?

Just get any old phone and any sim - you can go on Martin Lewis and search they usually have good deals - I pay 7.95 a month for my sim only

Agree with this. If you have an apple or Google account for your old phone set up a brand new one for your new phone.

It’s my own Apple account, he just pays for the sim and handset but can see my call logs etc. I want to keep my number ideally.
Have been to police already x

I don’t live in the UK so no help with the phone but wishing you strength to get through this. 💐

Are you safe staying there, OP?
Do the police know about the tracking and aggression?
The police can remove him and bail him out of the local area whilst they conduct their enquiries.
Even if the CPS don't take it to court, this will buy you some time, and keep you safe.
Please be vigilant as it sounds like his behaviour is escalating.

Please contact women’s aid as the risks of abuse increase when planning to leave. I don’t mean to scare you but they will have practical advice on how to manage this.
Also remember to change the password on everything including email accounts, banking apps and social media.
Stay strong 💐

I am staying out of the house each day as long as possible, the dogs are having many long walks.
I need UC to help me with renting somewhere but am a bit clueless where to start. I’ve asked in my journal.
Thank you all for your advice so far xx

Write down all your important phone numbers and e-mail them to yourself.
I hope the escape goes well.

Your bank will have a domestic abuse/support team for anyone experiencing financial abuse-mine arranged an overdraft for me so I could pay the rent and first month's deposit on a house to move into to get away-I then claimed UC the day we moved in and also got an advance payment to buy a kettle and plates and charity shop furniture etc.

A important addition to this - do NOT email them to yourself from your existing email address. Assume everything you currently have is compromised. He could easily have installed a key logger on your current phone. Don't assume he's not technical enough to do it, sadly they're really simple to use.

New phone, new email account ONLY linked to that phone, do not log into it on your current phone. Keep the two completely siloed.

Womens Aid can give further advice and should be able to guide you on getting housing. Wishing you well in getting out safely 🌸

Go to Tesco and get an £80 phone and £10 SIM card, transfer what you need from the old phone manually. Done.

Get a new phone, buy a 30 day rolling SIM contract. I use VOXI which is Vodafone's Youth brand.

As someone else said - keep EVERYTHING separate. Don't log into apps with the same details. I'd go so far as moving from Apple to Android or Vice Versa. Certainly use a completely new account, ideally with a new address. Don't log it into the house WiFi.

Sorry you are going through this. I didn’t want to read and run. Call women’s aid, they may be able to help you x