Dealbreaker or not

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Been seeing this guy for like 3 months and we get on great. But in the bedroom he doesn’t go down on me for some reason. I feel like I should ask why but don’t want to be awkward. Would this be a dealbreaker if you were in this situation?

I would not ask why, I would say you would like him to. Then judge the response

Am I in the wrong tho for wanting him to do it?

If you can't talk to him about it you shouldn't be having sex with him.

You can’t help what you want. You’re not demanding it, you’re just finding out what the situation is so that you can make your own decisions accordingly.

I agree with this really. A good & healthy sex life, just like relationships in general, requires open and honest communication.

If it’s something you want, ask him. It’s okay to ask. It’s also okay for him to say no. Then you can decide if that’s a deal breaker.

Of course not.

If it's something you like in the bedroom and he doesn't, it's how important it is to you that you need to decide.

Some women only orgasm through oral or toys or whatever, so if they're with someone unwilling or uninterested in doing that, then staying with them would mean never getting off during sex with their partner. Which would be rubbish.

Just ask the guy about it.

Why are you having sex if you don't communicate with each other what good sex is for both of you? Talk first, sex later. Come on it's 2026, not 1826.

Is he your extra-terrestrial colleague?

Why would you be in the wrong? It’s perfectly
normal.
Tell him what you want.

I reckon so! And he LOVES it when she wears leggings and heels. Totally has a Cyndi Lauper fetish. How are people this bored (and probably boring?)

He probably thinks it'll taste of sweaty spandex.

As a guy I would expect the women to tell me what they wanted in the bedroom, and what they were uncomfortable with.

Any relationship that is going to work needs open and honest conversations.

You’re joking… right?

I mean I'd speak to him first.

If he says no, he hates it. That's fine, that's his preference.

But it would be a deal breaker for me. I couldn't date a man who gets the ick at a fanny.

Fine for you to ask, fine for him to refuse.