Is this normal ? Advice needed

[Jadie44]

I have been with my partner for 2 years.
We talk of marriage etc.
Hower 2 years in and he never seems to make proper Time for me and my children. He Tells me he is commited to us but it doesn’t feel like it. He sers us one evening in the week he stays overnight and then 2 Saturday nights until Sunday afternoon.
Hea gone off this weeeknd to a theme park with his 15 year old son and his sisters family and I was never invited. That really hurt my feelings I can’t understand why he wouldn’t invite me
I Have seen his son twice in 2 years and he never includes me in any of their plans. I was ok with this bit now I’m struggling with it as I don’t feel like part of his life.
What going on ? I feel so confused

Maybe his 15 year old son just wants to spend time with his dad and not play happy families with you and your children?

His son told me he wanted to spend time with me

I live in Spain and so his son likes to practice his English with me

Maybe he was just being polite?

No, I could hear it in his voice when he spoke to me and he asked me for my help to convince his father that he study abroad

You live in Spain ..... and your partner lives in the UK ???

So he's doing something this weekend with his UK family - his son and sister in the UK.

Perhaps I have this wrong and you are all in Spain - I don't think you have provided clear background detail.

How often does he see his son? Unless his son lives with him most of the time, I can see wanting to keep family time separate. I’m married to my husband and we live together and share children, but he still goes off for days out with his mum and brother without me. We have our own social lives and that’s okay. I can absolutely imagine about 1% of teenage boys actually want to spend time with their dad’s girlfriend. I think he was probably being polite!

That said, I would expect at the 2 year mark that you would do things all together a few times a year, with most time with children spent one to one (and then you have adult time without the kids).

Have you met his friends and family?
Do you go out together socially?

He’s having family day with his son, sister and presumably her kids? I wouldn’t expect you to be invited to something like that.

Maybe being Spanish he conducts his relationship different than if he were English?
Or he's not that into you?? Maybe keep looking?

Good luck xx