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If you had HPV, would you tell your boyfriend?

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Passionfruit91 · 16/04/2026 00:04

I have HPV, one of the high risk ones but not 16 or 18, which are the more well known high risk ones. Do I tell my boyfriend of 2 months?
We have already had sex multiple times before I knew.

I got my results last week from a smear test that I had done a couple of months ago, so I know it wasn't him that gave me it and I was very sexually active with a few different men in the last few years as I have been single.
I'm scared to tell him in case he dumps me or it changes his view of me. I really like him and don't want to taint things with this.
I did a STI check before sleeping with him and it came back all clear and now I've found out I have this.
What would you do?

OP posts:

Wallywobbles · 16/04/2026 20:17

Yes my kids step dad died of cancer caused by HPV.

ScrollingLeaves · 16/04/2026 20:22

EBearhug · 16/04/2026 00:45

I told all the men I'd recently slept with when I had a positive smear. I don't know when I picked it up - I might have had it years. I had a series of annual smears in my early 30s after they picked up abnormal cells, and that was back when they didn't test for HPV.

In most cases, I don't know what they did with the information. One of them has had sex with me again since. Two have picked up girlfriends in the time between me sleeping with them and me having the smear test. I hope they told theIr girlfriends, because we are of an age where most of us weren't ever inoculated for HPV.

And it can lead to cancer.

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