Concerned about partner behaviour.

[DinosaurCity]

I’ve been with my partner for 8 years. He’s Indian and I’m white. He’s a bit older than me.

We’ve never had children, and we are not married despite me wanting both.

He works all the time. Went to work over Easter at different points. Won’t come to family events, our sex life is none existent apart from the odd time here and there.

We show some affection to each other with a peck each day but nothing more.

Do you think I should be worried about his behaviour and lack of commitment. Anyone been in this position before?

Has he got any good points?

Ask yourself just what exactly you get out of this ' relationship ' ??

I’m not seeing what you get from this relationship? So why are you together. Do you do all the housework? Has he kept promising and then doing nothing?

No sex = no relationship.

Just end it. It sounds pointless.

If you want marriage and children and you've been together 8 years, hardly ever have sex or spend any time together, it sounds like you're wasting your time with him. If I were you, I'd be leaving and looking for someone who wants the same things you do. He is not the one.

Do a list of positives, then one of negatives. Know you are free to leave, then perhaps leave the relationship

Don't throw good years after bad. End it immediately.

Why have you not already left?

What’s the point of him?

This is clearly not a healthy relationship. No kids, no marriage so not complicated to leave. Move on.

So for eight years you’ve been with a man who doesn’t want to spend time with, won’t go to anything with you, won’t sleep with you and doesn’t want either of the two big things in life that you want?

Why? What on earth would you stay in a relationship like this? He’s barely interested in you.