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Leaving Partner

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notacluehere · 15/04/2026 15:17

Advice needed please...

I live with my partner who has recently retired following a large inheritance.
He inherited our home from his parents and also owns another property that his wife lives in. His adult children do not live there. We both pay an equal amount into a joint account to cover bills etc. I moved into this house reluctantly as it's a distance away from my mum and my adult children. I was up against it financially and renting so it made sense to give it a go. I am self employed and can't afford to retire, and don't wish to either, for a number of years. I have never settled and have told my partner this on a number of occasions but he gets angry and shouts. He has also refused to divorce his wife.
He has narcissistic behaviour traits and is a man child. I am worn out.
I need to leave and have managed to same some money for a deposit for a mortgage but at 58 I am limited to a short term mortgage and can't borrow enough. He doesn't know my plans. I want to ask him for a contribution but i'm scared to. Would I actually be entitled to anything anyway?

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JalamityCame · 15/04/2026 15:23

No you would not be entitled to a contribution from him if you’re not married and the house is owned solely by him.

deserthighway · 15/04/2026 15:33

Youre not entitled to anything but you can always ask.

what is it exactly that you want?

ArtAngel · 15/04/2026 15:48

Not entitled to anything.

Unlike his wife who could well claim half his inherited properties , pension, savings etc, and she could choose to divorce him whether he likes it or not.

It's good that living in his house has enabled you to save but too soul destroying to carry on living with him.

Look for an affordable rental - or O55s properties that might be available ?

Endofyear · 15/04/2026 17:29

You can ask but he's very likely to say no. You're not married so have no legal claim on any of his property or money. Where were you living before? Did you rent or own a property?

Bananalanacake · 15/04/2026 17:33

It is safer that you move out and don't tell him until you are well away.

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