Problem Drinker:
Drinks just to get drunk.
Tries to solve or cope with problems through drinking.
Experiences personality changes which can range from becoming either angry, loud or violent to silent, remote or reclusive.
Drinks when he/she should not ? before driving, before going to class or work, or when it interferes with some responsibility (studying, relationships, etc.)
Causes other problems among family, friends, and even harms himself or herself through making bad choices and engaging in problematic behaviors.
How to Help a Friend with a Drinking Problem:
Face the issue, the problem will not just go away.
Take advantage of strength in numbers, get others involved who care about the drinker.
Give the facts, avoid lecturing and giving orders - just express your concerns and that you care about the person. Let others talk and intervene with the drinker and ask the drinker what they thought about what was said.
Do not approach the drinker while they are under the influence, wait until they are sober.
Avoid attitudes that put blame on, express anger toward, or appear to judge the drinker. Share your concerns and that you are saying something because you care, but know that any decisions about changing are up to the drinker.
Nearly 90% of interventions are successful. Just remember that your friend needs help. Try sharing your concerns, it could be just the thing your friend needs to get started with helping him/herself.