Does getting back with old flame every work?

[Gizmo100]

I went out with a chap for 9 months very happy together but split after 9 months - there was a reason which is now not a reason anymore - met husband two weeks after split and im now seperated. The old flame has got back in touch saying daft to let me go and wouldnt ever let me go again. However one of my friends doesnt think this can every work out. The guy is decent so its nothing personal about him. Does anyone know any success stories?

Depends.

I think it can.

Really depends on why you split and whether that issue / those issues have been resolved.

Worth talking about it.

But, there is obviously something still there for both of you?

the reason was that after going out 9 months he didnt want children of his own - he happily went out with single mums as the children were part of the package so to speak but wouldnt have kids of his own - that hasnt changed but I now have a child of my own and honestly dont think I would want any more - there is still definately something there between us. we went out for a meal last week and it was if we hadnt been aart for 7 years - he said he felt all the feelings coming back and that was before I said anything to him. sorry this sounds a bit mushy!

Hmm.. sounds promising.... I mean, that is a resolution of issues!!

Just want to get something right, though: YOu went out for 9 months, over 7 years ago?

There must be a bit of rose tinted-ness going on?

Not saying it can't work, but I'd be a lot more positive if you said you'd been together for 9 Years and apart of 7 Months....

How come you had no contact for all that time?

Didn't work for me... but that's because i was in love with the boy i knew then not with the bloke i met up with again. However, i persuaded myself that it was such a romantic story that i had to MAKE IT WORK.

Be careful to give those glasses a good wipe before your next date!

What is his issue with kids? Is it the commitment/self sacrifice involved? If so, it may still cause problems.

I'm back with my 'ex' - and have 2 kids

It can work

I married my 'ex,
Was with him about 10 years ago, dated for a few months. Then I married someone else
That didnt work, got back with the ex we are now married with 2 lovely kids
can work

My ex husband was an old flame who had cheated on me & behaved like a bastard...I should have learnt my lesson!

Oh, PC, what a terrible thing to happen. You can't blame yourself for that - and I'm sure the lesson is well and truly learned now, unfortunately.

Good luck, Gizmo. Hope your relationship goes from strength to strength.

I was with my current OH for 9 months, we split up when we left uni (due to the distance between his home & mine, although it's not that much).

About 6 months later got back together with DDs dad (ex no1!!!) which was good to start off with but then it was clear that we were friends rather than a couple so split up after a year.

Current OH then had a going-away party & being newly single thought why not go & have a laugh (didn't ever expect anything to happen), then went away for 6 months during which time we kept hotmail in business & when he came back we hit it off & have been back together for over a year now (despite only living a couple of miles closer together than we would've after uni!)

A bit messy! So sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't. Personally I'd go for it if it feels right.

MY DP of 12 years and 3 kids is an old flame, so yeah

hi - I am definately not getting swept away with the idea so my glasses are very much wiped and clean!! We had no contact after that because i met my husband two weeks later and only seperated from him last September hence 7 years of no contact. He again said he didnt have any issues with taking on someone elses children (in 7 years he has had a couple of LT relationships where his girlfriends had children) and liked kids but just didnt want to have his own biological kids. He is well aware I have a child and i showed his pictures of her and my nieces when we went out for dinner and was genuinely interested (kind of did this as a bit of a test to be honest!)