Should I be concerned about my partner's spending and clutter habits?

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My partner of a year recently moved in with me, so far so good except I'm noticing he definitely buys a lot of things clothes, shoes other bits and bobs for his hobbies and it all piles up. I'm getting a bit fed up of stuff and boxes lying about and also aware that he does seem to spend what he earns rather than saving up and he's had issues when he's needed to pay out for bigger things in the past and then has to do a payment plan as he doesn't have the money to hand. I don't know, do I need to be concerned about this?

Is he paying his share of rent and bills?

Yeah this would drive me mad tbh.

Yes he very concerned. I was with someone for two decades who did this. It was horrific and prevented us from buying a home together. Cut your losses now

I would ask him to move back out.

I can't stand clutter.

But didn't you notice it wherever he lived before he moved in with you?

I guess your role is Big Mummy; any problems, planning and mess ups, you’ll be the one sorting it out.

No, he was in a shared flat prior to him moving in and so we were rarely at his place due to lack of privacy. He is paying to live here but it's not an equal share of everything yet as the house is in my name. He is due to start paying a bit more.

So when is he actually going to start paying more?

Why not yet c what are you both waiting for?

You need to get on the same page as each other with goals if it’s home ownership jointly and marriage then these are big financial contracts and you both need to be transparent about savings and income and debts. If he won’t share with you you’re not on the same page and should keep finances totally apart