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I really want to be a father but the thought of having my own kids brings out all sorts of emotions

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TheBlueMaker · 12/04/2026 11:28

Now I have been with my GF for nearly 3 years and we plan on having kids, she wants to get pregnant this year and we are a good age to have kids because we aint too old (im 27 and shes 26) but although I really want to be a father but the thought of having my own kid makes me feel nervous, overwhelmed but excited and happy at the same time.

Its hard to explain but I feel like I would pass out in shock when my GF gives birth and I see my little one for the first time lol. Im also not an emotional person at all, I never cry and have always been emotionally reserved but I feel like that moment will bring my emotions out.

Even the thought of getting my GF pregnant makes me feel nervous and overwhelmed but in a good way. I never thought id find someone who would want kids with me. I also worry about things like my GF driving while pregnant or even her being off maternity leave because she doesnt really have any friends and her family will most likely go mad if they find out shes pregnant (they are strict and controlling) so she will most likely be in the house on her own while im working

OP posts:
freedomformeismotherhood · 12/04/2026 15:29

Thank you for telling us

RoseField1 · 12/04/2026 15:31

I think these are common feelings and probably quite good.
I am not sure what you mean about her family being controlling though - does she live with them?

GlovedhandsCecilia · 12/04/2026 16:34

Maybe watch some birth videos and see what it will be like and how people react.

Callmeback · 12/04/2026 16:37

freedomformeismotherhood · 12/04/2026 15:29

Thank you for telling us

No need to be sarcastic.

Callmeback · 12/04/2026 16:38

Op why would your partner be in the house while you work? Are you saying she'd need to avoid her family?

Gillthepill · 12/04/2026 18:32

It’s natural to be nervous but I would say try to ensure you are stable first. Perhaps this may be what her family are concerned about?

Do you have a secure home, steady jobs, some savings between you as your partner will be on maternity leave and a plan for nursery or looking after at home until school?

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