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Am I right to cut contact with difficult family members?

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ThisHappyBiscuit · 10/04/2026 20:33

Hi, first time posting. I have 4 children and im married. We got in touch with family members a few years back but things have slowly deteriorated to where ive stopped contact. Weve had FB posts about us not visiting enough, yanno the passive aggressive posts that aim it at you but they dont say its you posts. Every family member gets a happy birthday post bar me and my husband. my daughter is neurodivergent and its so so hard getting out and they know this. But we were recently very poorly and we got a message on easter, that was basically saying when r you bringing the easter eggs? No hi how r guys feeling just cold and to the point. We brought it up with this family member and when we said its really hard to get to them it was "thats a you problem and not an us problem". That was that for me and id reached my breaking point and id had enough. I blocked everyone, including nephews to stop any contact from the parents getting in touch with me. And me being stupid and petty I said on my Facebook that if you are bad to us then you lose contact with my kids. Am I doing the right thing? Because how can we maintain a relationship with someone that actively hates us? Bearing in mind, my children really dislike said family member and one of my children has been struck by one of them too. So I knew for me that interaction was enough for us to get out and cut ties. I'll gladly be called a villain in their scenario but if my children really dislike them and them added hate towards us am I still doing the right thing?

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Maray1967 · 10/04/2026 20:39

If an adult relative of mine hit my child that would be it - end of relationship.

begonefoulclutter · 10/04/2026 20:39

Seems like you have made the right decision. Nobody needs toxic unpleasant people in their life, even if they are family.

RubyBiscuit1 · 10/04/2026 20:39

They sound rude and, well, scummy.

I wouldn’t want them near my children. Ever. And I wouldn’t have anything further to do with them

They sound - unpleasant to put it mildly

RubyBiscuit1 · 10/04/2026 20:40

Do you all have your spats on Facebook?

all sounds… like another planet to me

pimplebum · 10/04/2026 20:46

You are immature and common as muck to air your dirty laundry on Facebook blocking people as a way to make a point - no

cutting family from your life who you don’t like and who hit your kids - yes

ThisHappyBiscuit · 10/04/2026 20:47

RubyBiscuit1 · 10/04/2026 20:40

Do you all have your spats on Facebook?

all sounds… like another planet to me

No i don't.

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ThisHappyBiscuit · 10/04/2026 20:50

pimplebum · 10/04/2026 20:46

You are immature and common as muck to air your dirty laundry on Facebook blocking people as a way to make a point - no

cutting family from your life who you don’t like and who hit your kids - yes

I think for me blocking stops me from getting into arguments and unnecessary stress. And tbh with fb I only have very close friends and family on their so for me it was more so to get opinions. But I see your point and it was probably classeless to go to that level.

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MakesMyHazelEyesBlue · 10/04/2026 20:54

pimplebum · 10/04/2026 20:46

You are immature and common as muck to air your dirty laundry on Facebook blocking people as a way to make a point - no

cutting family from your life who you don’t like and who hit your kids - yes

Says......pimplebum........

RubyBiscuit1 · 10/04/2026 21:04

one of my children has been struck by one of them too

Parent up fgs.

ThisHappyBiscuit · 10/04/2026 21:07

RubyBiscuit1 · 10/04/2026 21:04

one of my children has been struck by one of them too

Parent up fgs.

Youre right. I think for me it was to not cause another argument and me being the villain again. But thats my own stupidity and my own ego. I will do better.

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