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How can I help my 80yr old mum adjust when I move nearby?

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Katsun · 08/04/2026 07:33

Any tips or suggestions on how to help my Mum adjust when I move out. I’ve lived with her for almost 2 years after my stepdad passed away. I’m moving a few mins walk away but I can see she’s already anxious about me going although we plan to eat evening meal together most nights etc. We have spent a lot of time together, weekends & holidays over last few years and in hindsight I should have probably ‘done my own thing’ more in readiness. She has lots of friends which she sees during the week (mostly married) so weekends become tricky (I work some weekends) How does she get used to enjoying her own time? Shes very active for 80, gardening, driving places etc. I have a brother but always busy 🙄 I feel a bit torn but need to make a new home & enjoy it.

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AbzMoz · 08/04/2026 07:44

If you’re going to eat most meals together, save the money and stay? ;)
If you want to build your own network (and imo you should!) sign up for classes/book club - she’s welcome along too but you’re doing the activity ‘out’. Similarly holidays - one with her, one doing your own thing.
she gets used to it by just doing it - are there other clubs she can consider outside of her normal married friends? Or volunteering at a local park which plays into her hobbies

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