AIBU about Easter egg

[Oxycarpus]

I'm just back from my weekend visit to my boyfriend's. He has two sons and he bought them both Easter eggs even though they are adults. I bought them all 3 lovely Easter handmade chocolate eggs and chocolates. I'm a bit disappointed my partner didn't get me anything or acknowledge that fact and offer to share or similar. I know some people say this is for kids but it's a new relationship and I just thought it would be a nice gesture.

I would be disappointed too.

How new?

What did he say when you gave him your gift?

You need to discuss in advance and decide your terms. Are you doing Easter, Xmas budget etc

The fact he didn't acknowledge the fact or offer to share his egg is very poor OP.
I could have forgiven him not buying you an egg but not sharing is so selfish. I would take that as a possible clue for his real nature.

Nothing really - just kind of said thanks and changed the subject.

10 months.

Yeah I think id throw this one back. He is thoughtless towards you. He isnt against buying an adult an egg, or receiving an egg, just buying you one.

What happened at Christmas and Valentine’s Day?

Did you ask him where your egg was?

A man did this to me in my early 20’s. After ASKING me to get him an egg. It took me months to realise he just didn't care about me.

I didn't ask him where my egg was as it seemed a bit petty but it's niggling me.

I would buy a partner an egg because I love Easter (and chocolate) but I wouldn't really expect one back. I bought eggs for a few friends this year because I felt like it but didn't get any in return and didn't expect to! It was just intended to be a nice surprise.

I do think there's a difference between buying eggs for his adult sons and buying an egg for a partner (or any other adult). Regardless of age your child is always your child. Especially if they're young adults/single/living at home.

I'd personally find it a bit much that a new partner is buying eggs for his adult children.

Having said that if he happily munched a fancy egg in front of you while you sat there with nothing then he's a massive twat.

He bought eggs for his adult DC but nothing for you - I’d be very upset. He didn’t think about you at all when he was buying eggs for his DC. He doesn’t like you as much as you like him…….

Almost 7 years I’ve been with DP and he has only bought me an egg once 😂and that was years into our relationship and only because I’d hinted to him that I liked THAT particular egg. I’ve bought him one this year but ONLY because I was buying one for myself - I wouldn’t usually buy him one

I wouldnt read too much into it to be honest, or judge him just on this. Easter is more when you buy for your kids, even if they are adults

Yeah well I hope his egg was cracked when he opened it. What a tight git.

I would never consider buying an adult an egg.
As soon as the kids in our family (plus wider family) reach 16, eggs stop. They'll get a chocolate bar with a £10 note usually.

Each family is different, I assume he's making an effort for his son's because he and their Mum are separated - I don't know.

I think YABU because it's not really a romantic thing.

To me, it's all too much consumerism. As is Christmas, Valentines, Halloween.

It's just so... Horrible!

Sorry, I don't have the words. It's so money grabbing from the companies in times of hardship for many, that I think that - yes, if we're to celebrate these things we don't believe in or understand, at least keep it for the children.

Will someone please think of the children!!

Eggs for adults is bullshit.

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Easter eggs are for kids. If he bought his sons Easter eggs it's because he's remembering them as kids. If you want an Easter egg next year ask for one.

On its own this is pretty meaningless. He thinks of his kids as kids, despite them being adults, because they are his kids. He should have shared with you but sometimes people can be a bit graceless when embarrassed.

However if it’s typical of him then it’s not meaningless.

It wouldn’t occur to me to buy an adult an egg and I’d be a little bemused if I was bought one. Now I say that and I buy my adult child one still but I’d not expect it from my husband.

so I’m not sure it’s he’s thoughtless or tight, I’d assume he doesn’t put the same store into it you do.

now if he sat and ate his and didn’t offer, in front of you thays different, but if I was given an egg, I’d be a little bemused and chuck it in the cupboard.

I think this is just about different people’s norms. I’d never expect an egg from a partner or think to buy them one. I do buy for relatives if we are seeing them. In a new relationship like this though, I’d expect him to acknowledge the situation and explain he doesn’t see Easter as a romantic gift giving occasion, or whatever his stance is. Not to mention it isn’t great. But I’d not condemn him based on this. I’d ask him what his take on Easter is - was he surprised you got him an egg, etc.

What a horrible thing to say,

To be honest with you as an adult, at the grand age of 42 years old, my partner brought me an Easter egg, advent calendar and asked if I wanted am Xmas stocking this first year we were together . This was a new concept for me and he’s been doing it for 6 years now. Of course I’ve always returned the gesture. I think it must have felt really awkward for you @Oxycarpus amongst the egg giving. And he could have probably made it up to you by sending you flowers as a thank you or showing appreciation and apologising that he didn’t get you one. It’s a small thing, maybe he didn’t think ? However what was Christmas like with him? Whose birthday is next. It’s not about what you receive but the overall sentiment and how he trays you.

• treats you

What happened the at Christmas, Valentines, your birthdays?

Tbh I wouldn't have expected an egg...

but I 100% would expect him to crack it open and share it.

I think it's not great behaviour i would be looking out for other signs as this doesnt bode well...

I can honestly say it would never occur to me to buy any adult an Easter egg!
And I’d be hugely embarrassed if I was given one in that context.
I do get one from a client regularly as a thank you which is lovely…..but literally takes me by surprise every single time!