I had a friendship that ended over 12 years ago. We fell out and stopped talking, over that time he moved abroad.
9 years later (so 3 years ago) he messaged me to apologise, and asked how I was doing. I thought about ignoring it but a few days later he sent a follow up message so I replied politely, saying my life is fine, hope his is too etc. we had a few messages catching up on life, and then he stopped replying.
He then messaged a few weeks lager with ‘hey’, and I said ‘hi’ and then he wouldn’t respond. Then a week or so later a question saying ‘how are you’, I said ‘fine, how are you?’ He would send a thumbs up and say he will talk when not busy then nothing. This happened a few times.
Then after a few months he messaged to ask why I’m ignoring him, I said I’m not, I replied and you didn’t reply back. He said ‘I don’t believe you, did I do something to upset you?’ I said no, why, as I found it confusing he said ‘I will speak to you when I’m not busy’. He then unfollowed me on social media so I unfollowed him, and thought it’s very odd behaviour.
I didn’t hear from him again for 3 years but the other day I got a message from him on a different social media platform at 2am saying ‘hey I’ve missed talking to you’. I ignored it, and he then sent a message 2 days later asking what he did to offend me. I said nothing, it’s fine, it’s him who behaves odd by getting in touch and then disappearing. He read it and didn’t respond. I think that’s the end of that for another few years, then he will get in touch on another platform with out of the blue messages.
Is this some sort of narcissism, is it because I’m not chasing him to chat? But then when I reply it’s stroked his ego? It’s weird behaviour and I can’t work out why he wants to talk in the first place, but then go radio silent.
I have blocked him on some social media but he makes new accounts all the time.