Should I feel guilty for sending only a birthday card?

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One of my friendships has faded over the years, last year I got her a present for her birthday last year, and she ask for an email address to send mine when it came along. She never sent anything which I really dont mind as id rather she spent money on her children, but it made me confront the problems in our friendship as a whole. We met at Christmas for the first time in over a year and ive said happy birthday for her children but not much has changed from her communications. I decided not to send a gift but just a card and I feel guilty still, should I have sent something?

Not if you don't want to. You dont give to recieve but on same hand she lied about sending you something. In your shoes I would only of sent a card or a text

Do not feel guilty at all. This sort of thing happened to me when a good friend moved away. I sent presents as we usually exchanged them. I often didn't get a thank you, eventually when I asked if she received them there was a sorry email thanking me for 3 years worth.
For my birthday I sometimes got flowers through the post, which was lovely and a thank you sent.
Event I realised that she had moved on, years later I do still feel a bit of a fool.

You must tie yourself up in knots about a lot in life if you’re feeling guilty about this

Sending a card is completely fine! Even people whose friendships hasn't faded do that and it's perfectly acceptable! Lots of adults don't do gift exchanges with friends and either send the cards or smartshow 3d video cards (that's what we're doing) or just text messages. Don't beat yourself up over something so minor.