Who unpacks when you come back off holiday ?

[Perimenopausal42]

Just that really just been away for weekend with DH family.

I packed up at holiday he put stuff in car, he drove 4 hours has now gone to bed left me to unpack car and all stuff for both adults and 1 7 year old. What happens in your case?

We went away for Easter. This morning DD packed her room up and DP and I shared packing, he put it all in the car whilst I did the air B&B cleaning jobs requested. I drove home because his foot is sore. We both brought the stuff in the house. I made lunch whilst he sat down and after we ate he unpacked whilst I lay on sofa. Shortly I’ll make tea and he’ll clean up after.

I do it because no one else would, they’d happily live out of the suitcase and leave the dirty laundry to fester. We have a small flat and I can’t bear to look at it all, I need it gone asap. I don’t drive.
Yes, it pisses me off, to some extent, that I’m the busynn no one, but I look at it as the burden of living with people. Sometimes all the sheets and towels go to the launderette for a service wash ( we are v self catering!). I get the cash out first this, get the laundry liquid out and one of us will take it over.
I had a great single life…

We all lug stuff in from the car. Everyone takes their hand luggage and toiletries upstairs. The suitcases get left in the hall so I can pull all the dirty laundry out and sort into piles (laundry is mainly H's job but we both muck in with it after holiday as there will be a few loads to wash and dry).

Everyone then takes their own case upstairs to their respective bedroom, empties out anything else and leaves case outside their bedroom door. I then put cases back in loft as no one else would bother. But I definitely don't do everything.

When the kids were littler I did supervise/ help with their packing and unpacking (as once youngest packed multiple teddy bears but no pants or pyjamas). But H definitely did his own and he did most of the lifting and loading plus driving (i drive but prefer to be driven) in return for me doing most of the admin.

We all pitch in but its mostly my dh. He wouldn't go to bed and leave me to it unless we were back at 11pm then we'd all go to bed and do it the next day. We all do our own individual bags. My dh also does all the laundry and driving.

I pack and unpack, my husband (76) drives, takes care of bookings and events.
Just the two of us.

Everyone helps unload the car, then everyone will (at some point) empty their own bag.
If he had driven all the way, then I'd probably put away all the other 'stuff' - from buckets and spades / cricket set to food etc if we'd been self catering.

DH does all the packing. When we come home he packs all the clean stuff together and all the dirty stuff together.

Dirty bag is put in the kitchen for me to work through the laundry. Clean bag he takes upstairs and it eventually gets unpacked when someone wants something from it 😅

since the dc were tiny we’ve always had the system where I pack and organise the holidays and when we come back dh unpacks and then washes everything etc and puts the cases back away in the loft. It works really well for us .

Everyone packs and unpacks their own stuff and does their own washing, including the teenager.

Adults and a 17yr old should sort their own stuff out !
why are you packing and unpacking their stuff ?

He left you to unpack the fucking car?

Also, your 17 year old doesn’t sort their own stuff?

doormat OP?

DH unpacks the car and the kitchen stuff out if we've been on a self catering type driving holiday. I do the cases upstairs as I'll do the majority of the laundry, but will leave DH's stuff that isn't dirty laundry for him to put away. DC sort their own cases.

DH, I'd just leave it for the next day but he seems to like getting the car emptied and gettinh a wash on.

I tend to do it as I’m quicker at sorting it into piles for laundry. DH will head to kitchen to see if we need any supplies/sort food whatever. If DS has a separate bag he will unpack his own.

DH unpacks car. Everyone empties their dirty clothes into laundry room. DH takes suitcases upstairs and then puts them in attic once they’re fully empty.

i do the laundry with military precision and get it all ready to be ironed for the next time our cleaner is in.

I take everything out the car as my husband can’t lift it, I put the cases in the utility and then we both sort all the washing into colours and we’ll both get it washed, dried and put away.

Your seventeen year old shouldn’t need your input really.

We all pack our own stuff into bags/cases. DH packs and unpacks them into the car. Everyone unpacks their own bags/cases, but I tend to get the first wash on and generally co-ordinate.

DH packs his own case, he will load up the car and unload it, I will unpack at the end of the holiday because I do the washing.

I think if he’s drove 4 hours and needed to rest I would just unload the car and unpack to start the washing. Why can’t the 17 year old help unpack or unload the car?

Ae all grab something from the car. I unpack the laundry as I always wash everything whether it has been worn on not, so it’s easy to just grab it all.

He just walked away from the car carrying nothing? And went to bed?

I’m struggling to see how anyone would think that was OK.

Not that it changes the fact everyone should help unload the car and unpack their own bags, but I read OP as saying

"one 7 yr old" not "a 17yr old"

Both of us - it's a military operation

First bags in - both
Bags in bin liners (I'm paranoid about bringing back bugs since he came back from a trip with one squashed under his shoe) and in the wetroom - me
Kettle on - him
First load in machine - me
Feed cat - him (cat's not hungry, he'll be lying to us, but he gets a snack anyway)
Open back door so cat can go out and check his realm/get some fresh air into the place - him
Any fresh food into fridge - me
Sit down with cuppa and cat complaining of abandonment - both

However, your DH did load the car and do all the driving, so it's not as if you'd be on unshakeable moral ground to leave it all in the car overnight and if the car gets broken into tough shit.

I would unload the car if I was not driving. We all unpack our own bags and I ask kids to bring their washing down. DP does his own.
I wouldn't begrudge him a nap before getting stuck into the unpacking, if it had been a long drive.

I do it, as I do the laundry. I start it as soon as we get back, I actually find it is a great way to end a holiday! DH does any driving needed for the holiday and generally unpacks the car- he wouldn’t just disappear/take himself to bed.

Surely nobody would say ‘1 7 year old’ to mean one 7 year old? You would say a 7 year old, or one 7 year old?

IDK maybe you are right and OP did mean a 7 year old