Dating and NC

[DatingWoe]

Hi has anyone dated who is NC with their family? Im dreading the inevitable questions of family etc? Have you found it put people off? I think being close to family is something a lot of people look for in potential partners.

Lots of people aren’t close to their family. My dad was dead and so was dh’s. I am also NC with my family (though wasn’t when we were initially dating). People so rarely ask questions about my family.

I think it’s a conversation for when things are getting a bit more serious than the first few dates, when you generally talk about your dysfunctional family (I’d say Dh told me his dad was an alcoholic and drank himself to death about 3 months in. I felt sad for how much it upset him, but gave it no more thought than that). I know very few people who have normal intact traditional families as adults.

Ah thats really reassuring thank you. I have been worried it will put people off.

I dont think it would bother me - it all depends on the reasons why I guess but I know families fall out - I am looking for a relationship with that person and the family is (without being rude) pretty irrelevant

That’s interesting that you say that as a lot of people say being close to family is something they look for in a partner