I started a FWB relationship about 9 months ago - we met around once a month, texted daily, not just about sex, there was a sense of genuine friendship there (I thought).
Though I was ok with FWB at the time (I wanted a bit of a break from commitment) I guess maybe I hoped it might develop into more eventually, but it became clear that it wouldn't ever be more, and when my father died at the start of this year he made no real effort to support me (fair enough, he wasn't obliged to - but that definitely showed me where his head was at regarding me).
Meanwhile my ex came back into my life while I was dealing with my father's end of life care, and was incredibly supportive to an extent I would never have expected of him - I really saw a different side of him, enough to try again (though we are taking it very slowly).
I had stopped texting FWB about anything much other than trivialities, so assumed he would get the message - but he now appears to think my dad's death is long enough in the past, that he can suggest meeting up for sex again.....
Do I need to phone him and tell him that's not happening, or is saying it over text enough? I have to say I would find text a lot easier myself - just less embarrassing, and I can think through what to say in advance, etc.
(Just for clarity, ex and FWB are two different people - hope it makes sense!)