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Dating photos red flags

20 replies

Nothernsoulfood · 06/04/2026 11:48

Scrolling through dating profiles on hinge. I was wondering if a photo of a man with other women would be a red flag for you? Especially if all the other photos were him on his own?

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Missj25 · 06/04/2026 12:02

Nothernsoulfood · 06/04/2026 11:48

Scrolling through dating profiles on hinge. I was wondering if a photo of a man with other women would be a red flag for you? Especially if all the other photos were him on his own?

Nope , wouldn’t be a red flag , I just think it looks stupid .
When I was on dating Apps I only put pictures of myself up .
I was talking to a guy once for a while , he was nice enough all in all , but wasn’t for me at the same time .
His wife had passed , his WhatsApp pic was with his wife, & his pics on dating App were him with his wife aswel .
I thought it was peculiar.

Elixir86 · 06/04/2026 15:35

I think it's personal preference.
I'm not sure why they can't just crop the woman out so it's just them.
I hate when they put their kids in, it's an automatic no for me then. I've seen what other photos are on there and no kids should be on the same platform. They aren't a pawn to use to make yourself look decent.

ForTipsyFinch · 06/04/2026 15:53

I don’t consider it a ‘red flag’ but I do think it’s an odd choice but tbh men don’t seem to have any idea of what good pictures even are for dating apps.

fireworksandflowers · 06/04/2026 16:04

My partner used a picture from his wedding on his profile. Tbf he did scrub up really well 😂

CapacityBrown · 06/04/2026 16:37

Photos with other people shouldn't be allowed on dating apps.

Yes, I have seen people use their wedding photos, group photos (where inevitably they are the fat one in the group), photos with children (and then a caption "but they aren't mine!").

Beetrootsmoothie · 06/04/2026 18:36

Apparently some men think a photo with other women will signal that he has female friends and therefore he's not a covert misogynist nor a threat.

FloydPink · 07/04/2026 00:06

I hate it when you see a profile and most pics are group so you have to guess who you are looking at! I dont have a problem with the odd pic with someone else as could be sister/mum or even a friend

EBearhug · 07/04/2026 08:40

The ones in front of toilets. And/or an unmade bed/untidy room.

A beach or landscape,where they may or may not be the tiny dot in the distance.

Their wedding photo, where they have inexpertly cropped out their bride, leaving a disembodied arm or hand.

A group photo where you have no idea which one of them they are - bonus points if it's only group photos.

Up the nose, blurred, side of the face cut off... it's not like they have to take their film into Boots and wait a week to find out most of them are crap. They can just take another one right then and there with a better angle, and yet, they decide this pic is the one to show me at my best...

Their car (or bike or yacht.) Not them in their car. Just the car. Or sometimes just the house.

ProudAmberTurtle · 07/04/2026 08:43

The biggest red flag is if they're in a pic holding up a dead fish or a drugged tiger. After that, it's grinning in a sports car

Vroomfondleswaistcoat · 07/04/2026 08:46

Bathroom mirror. It's ALWAYS the bathroom mirror, with the toilet (seat up) in full view and usually clothes draped about.

Makes me wonder why they don't have any mirrors anywhere else in their lives that might be more suitable, and why they can't just, I dunno, turn the phone camera around and take a selfie.

LadyBrendaLast · 07/04/2026 08:54

It wouldn't occur to me to see that as a red flag. However, the following are:

"Not interested in drama/ I just want someone to treat me right/402 friendly

As pp said, selfie in bathroom. Bonus points if public and urinal in view.

Group shots. Who the hell are you?

If you don't message me back within 24 hours, I'm blocking you

Pics with children. Boundaries and basic safety please!

Pictures of fish

Profile pic of a car. I'm looking for a human!

TwistedWonder · 07/04/2026 09:25

Laying topless in bed with the cover pulled back to show a glimpse of hairy chest giving what they think is a seductive look into the camera but actually gives off Norman Bates vibes.

And of course the too close up mirror selfie taken in a public toilet usually wearing some sort of hi viz.

LadyBrendaLast · 07/04/2026 09:32

@TwistedWonder - yes! It's ALWAYS hi-vis!

rainbowunicorn22 · 07/04/2026 09:44

including lots of people say at a party or pub if its men and women makes it hard to sort out who is actually looking for dates!
to be photographed with ex's and their children is an instant no for me
Also why the hell do they keep taking pics of them in the bathroom or say showers in a gym? I am not talking naked i mean bare top with shorts etc i just wander and tend to be looking at what is the room like!

ohwtf · 07/04/2026 10:21

I don't date anymore, I enjoy my solitude. I accepted that my prerequisites meant there was precious little choice, but here they are/were:

No photos with their kids. Photos of children do not belong on dating apps. You can say you have kids, but their photos should not be on dating apps. I don't like photos of children being posted publicly anyway, there are so many wronguns out there.

In line with the above, no children. I wanted to be a couple, not a couple with children I didn't/don't have the energy for.

No photos with animals where they are clearly being exploited, (elephants, donkeys, tigers, cubs etc). I also loathe fishing photos.

No photos with other people unless their faces were blurred out or obscured in some way.

Nobody with a blank profile, or a username for another app like snapchat for example.

Excessive emoji usage and/or text speak. Poor grammar was a no-no too, and I do understand that people struggle with dyslexia and such, but I can't cope with one word answers or too many emojis.

Boozy pub/club photos. Deeply unattractive.

Photo filters. Mild filters to improve lighting in a dark room is one thing, but some of them warp appearances so much that it looks ridiculous.

People who can't cope with phone calls as if making or receiving one is the end of the world. People with deafness or an inability to speak have genuine reasons. I like to speak to people and have a proper conversation because that's how you get to know someone. Freaking out over a phone call is ridiculous, and it's increasingly common.

Excessive social media usage. I didn't want to be around someone who posts everything on social media, I'm very private and would not appreciate being with someone who was always plugged in. I wanted to spend time with someone, not someone and their phone.

In line with the above, no content creators.

No sportscar obsessed weirdos.

No orange people with turkey teeth and an abundance of lip filler. Awful to look at.

Anyone who referred to themselves as an entrepreneur or a guru, both are code for being an absolute twat.

No religious nonsense.

LadyBrendaLast · 07/04/2026 10:30

Oh yes, and "Just ask" or, "I'll fill this is later" or "Can't see likes".

I'm not doing all the legwork dude. You're not irresistible.

ohwtf · 07/04/2026 10:33

LadyBrendaLast · 07/04/2026 10:30

Oh yes, and "Just ask" or, "I'll fill this is later" or "Can't see likes".

I'm not doing all the legwork dude. You're not irresistible.

"Happy go lucky" was another eyeroll inducing line.

LadyBrendaLast · 07/04/2026 10:46

ohwtf · 07/04/2026 10:33

"Happy go lucky" was another eyeroll inducing line.

I see your "Happy go lucky" and raise you a "Looking for my partner in crime".

ohwtf · 07/04/2026 11:02

LadyBrendaLast · 07/04/2026 10:46

I see your "Happy go lucky" and raise you a "Looking for my partner in crime".

Oh god

Run AWAAAAAAAAY

There's just so much cringe.

One of my other annoyances was whenever I'd encounter a profile that said "I'm off grid," and nothing else. Off grid on dating apps is code for "I bury my head in the sand and don't care about anyone else." They're usually after a quick shag which if that was all someone else was looking for, would be absolutely fine.

Genuinely off grid people don't use dating apps, and often refuse to use anything but a brick phone.

TwistedWonder · 07/04/2026 11:26

LadyBrendaLast · 07/04/2026 10:46

I see your "Happy go lucky" and raise you a "Looking for my partner in crime".

And I’ll add if you don’t look like your photos your (sic) buying the drinks until you do

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