Awful row

[Blacksheepagain]

I’m completely at a loss. Awful Row with my OH today which came out of nowhere. We don’t live together yet but we’re in the process of planning to. I’ve come home & feel a bit shell shocked. I have no idea what to do next.

Just be grateful he has shown you who he really is before you moved in together.

Nobody deserves or needs this kind of abuse and drama. Bin him and live your best life. 💐

I wouldnt want to live with some who disrespected me. I think he's shown you his true colours. I would ditch this one,,,rather than spend the rest of your life with him.

Or indeed 42 years!

In 20 years DP and I have never sworn at each other in anger or thrown insults at each other.

Arguments are there to air your disagreements and to try to resolve the issue. They should not be about hurting your partner.

He's shown you he's not a good bloke. Time to bin him.

So gaslighting (I'm in a mood but going to pretend that it's you that is the problem) and verbal abuse?

Yeah time to carefully rethink moving in together. Who cares if he is in pain he should have used his words and told you that he needs to be on his own because his pain his pissing him off and he won't be great company.

Reading with interest. My relationship ended 3 months ago after a huge row.

While it's obvious what someone needs to do objectively, it's another to end it when you are the one in the situation, with the attendant emotional involvement and shared history. I struggled with this too.

If he comes back full of apologies etc and you want to give him one last chance, don't give up your own place. It's your safe haven and your sanctuary.