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Trigger warning, death. Culture difference.

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cupsandcupsoftea · 05/04/2026 18:46

I had a relationship with my ex, it ended over a year ago and he soon moved to Thailand and re married.

I found out last week he was dying and today his new wife sent me a photo of his deceased body.

I'm really finding this hard to process and can't unsee it.

Does anyone know in Thailand is this a common thing to do?

OP posts:
AnSpideog · 06/04/2026 00:58

Flushitdown · 05/04/2026 19:29

It must have been very shocking for you.

Yes it's a cultural difference and she was actually trying to be polite and considerate to you, appreciate it hasn't come across like that though.

My dad's heavily Irish Catholic grandmother displayed pictures of all her relatives dead in their coffins in her living room. Very odd and absolutely terrifying for 4yo me but normal, respectful and polite to her and many of her age/ heritage.

This is not a “thing” in Ireland. Kissing the corpse, complimenting the corpse - these are all Irish traditions that English people don’t get. Displaying photographs of people in coffins was just her particular quirk.

OP I’m so sorry. I know that this is a thing in the Philippines anyway. Very upsetting for you though.

Bewareofstepfords · 06/04/2026 01:16

cupsandcupsoftea · 05/04/2026 18:58

He forgot about me very soon hence the new wife.

I just can't unsee these images. I said to family what was sent and they said it's disgusting. From reading though about the Thai culture it seems the norm. Very disturbing.

Though this is customary in Thailand it's not in the UK and a quick internet search by the widow or someone helping her would have revealed the fact.
And yes, that effort should have been made imo. Cultural sensitivities cut both ways..
What a disturbing thing for you to receive OP. I wish you a swift recovery from your understandable distress.

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