If your DH is usually does thoughtful things, but occasionally does something a bit dickish and becomes defensive about it, would you accept in your head that it’s a one-off and move on, or would you hold out for an apology?
For context DH usually lets me have a lie-in on the weekends (I’ve had broken sleep because of SEN kids for years) but this morning I said I needed 5 mins and he responded by sending the kids to my bed to encourage them out of theirs.
I was irritable and snappy with him when I told him I could have used those extra 5 mins, so he’s become defensive and snappy too.
I really appreciate a sorry or acknowledgement of my feelings - it really helps me move on from feeling annoyed. But if I don’t think one is forthcoming should I just try to move on and not ruin a family day.