I used to be highly sexed. Very highly sexed, far more so than DH. All the way through pregnancy I had the horn, and for the next 3 years thereafter as well.
So why don't I care atm if I never have sex again? It's not that I even dislike the idea of it, it's just a complete and utter absence of desire...
I had to lose a lot of weight quickly in order to have an operation on my bladder. I'm not sure if the low cal diet I've been on for the last 3 months has done this to me, or if it was the op I had (it was a TOT op, where they inserted a bit of mesh around my bladder to prop it up). I wasn't allowed to have sex for 2 months afterwards, and last week (3 months later) DH got frisky, so....
It was disastrous
I just could not get turned on, no matter how hard the poor bloke tried, I felt (sorry if TMI) tight and dry and just not into it at all. I actually found myself wishing he'd just get on with it and come so I could be left alone, which is SO not me!
Is it just the 3 month abstinence, do you think? I've got to go back to the specialist for a check up next week so will mention it to her, but painful sex aside, the op shouldn't affect my ability to feel like I want sex, should it?
Has anyone else just gone off it? Did the desire come back again? Is there anything I can do to help matters? I don't even feel like wanking, which is a first for me, I must admit . I'm not even 42 yet, I don't want my sex life to be over and I'm sure DH doesn't either....