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Husband got physically intimidating in front of kids — need perspective

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Longtallsally777 · 03/04/2026 15:50

I called say husband fucking useless today under my breath when I was annoyed beucase he had been trying to get the children out the door for about twenty minutes and I needed to work and key on having to get up and get them things and cajole them. My son said he wanted something at the last second and I picked him up super angrily to go get it for him as my husband just stood there then walked away because I had figured it was bit appropriate and I had lost my temper. Husband followed me up to desk. He pointed my finger in my face loomed over me when I was trying to work and tried to make himself bigger and taller to scare me. I said you are threatening me be aware of what you are doing please this is aggressive he picked up my phone as I was typing something and so that I couldn’t keep doing that said look at me when I’m talking to you and was quite scary and intimidating. I’m refusing to cry but I said you know what will happen if you do that again as in I will leave but my goodness it was terrifying. The hate in his eyes was awful and it was in front of the children. This is the first time he has been openly aggressive towards me but it was like he did want to hurt me and for a minute I thought he would.

im not sure why I am posting. Im in shock I think

OP posts:
Pryceosh1987 · 04/04/2026 23:51

I think your insults are getting to him.

Sodthesystem · 05/04/2026 03:11

Besafeeatcake · 04/04/2026 19:49

Then by that reasoning her husband didn't assault her either. It was the way they both felt not what happened.

No one is saying he did...? He did however, behave in a threatening manner.

People have instincts for a reason. If she felt he might hurt her it's because he was considering it.

Parents get angry at their kids sometimes. Not ideal but hardly the same thing as a partner squaring up to you.

It's ridiculous to imply she deserved that.

AlwaysLookOnTheBrightSideOfLife · 05/04/2026 03:15

You sound worse to be honest and you started it...

Besafeeatcake · 05/04/2026 11:06

Sodthesystem · 05/04/2026 03:11

No one is saying he did...? He did however, behave in a threatening manner.

People have instincts for a reason. If she felt he might hurt her it's because he was considering it.

Parents get angry at their kids sometimes. Not ideal but hardly the same thing as a partner squaring up to you.

It's ridiculous to imply she deserved that.

I didn’t imply she deserved that (so not being ridiculous either). I asked how her child felt being put in a similar situation by her which was pretty glossed over.

The OP was the root cause of this issue and if her husband was ‘standing over her’ as she was sitting down at her desk and being angry at the way she treated the children then fine.

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