I'm really struggling at home with my husband. I find he's really critical about things around the house. I naturally find criticism emotionally painful whilst he doesnt name call or put me down during these times he's critiquing things. He says it's constructive criticism. So for example he will comment on things like me not wringing the mop out enough when I mop, if something isn't put away after I use it, if the dishwasher isn't stacked in the best way. They aren't huge things but I really feel criticised when he regularly makes these comments. Most of the time I just cop it on the chin but around my period I really struggle to regulate my emotions and I'm more likely to snap. We are having an explosive argument every month. The other night he chopped a head of garlic and dumped it in the fry pan whilst I was cooking then went to play his game saying "just leave it there " and when I asked follow up questions "do what you want". It ended up being an argument that lasted for 40 minutes. The next day he's calling me abusive. I don't know how I can be the abusive one when I live in a state of constant hypervigalence awaiting the next comment about what I'm not doing right. We have two young children and it's just not possible to pay attention to everything. Any advice?