I despair of ever finding someone who likes me who I also like.
Im 38 and gay, although I’ve children from a previous relationship before I came out.
I’ve joined lesbian groups for things like walking and reading and through social media and I’ve met some very nice women but only as friends. I did get very friendly with one woman and she said that she loved me and that she liked being with me more than anyone and we were extremely close. But it didn’t move to more - she was already in an on off thing with a married woman who she described as being very attracted to.
I have plenty of straight female and male friends and some lesbian / bi friends… but it’s never more. It must be my appearance. That’s all I can think. People don’t seem to hate me so it has to be how I look and I don’t know how to change that? I’m undesirable somehow?
I’m starting to despair a bit. Lots of the women in the groups I’m in have met someone…it just doesn’t seem to happen for me. I get put firmly in ‘friend zone’ and can’t move out of it.