Pregnant with a third child and family doubts are shaking me

[Worriedoldermum]

Help.... I just found out im pregnant with my 3rd child. (Diffrent dad to my two I have right now)
There will be 10 years between my oldest and the new baby and 7 between my daughter and the new baby. My family are not at all being supportive as I had postnatal with my youngest I understand they are worried but its really making me doubt my abilities making me feel im to old to have another baby. Its a horrible feeling and I dont know where else to go for advice.

Hi OP unless your family do a lot of babysitting for you then it’s what you think that counts. How old are you? Are you in a stable relationship? Can your doctor signpost you to an independent source of advice? Good luck.

My family live 5 hours away. Im 39 and my partner is incredible! My ex husband is the father of my current 2 children and he wasnt supportive at all i was on my own all the time and he didnt help when they where younger at all so I struggles

A latger gap cam be great - we have this and theyve been amazing with the baby - reslly helpful and the bond is incredibe- the toddlers favourite person is his big bro ! Also there are perinatal mh teams if you are in the uk - get referred when ptegnant by your midwife and they can suppprt you. Just because you had pnd last time doesnt mean you will get it again. Not having a wanted naby is going to harm your mh more.

I have 2 with 2 year gap then 9 year gap and another 2 18mths apart. Last one I was 38. The kids are all very close and always have been. It was the best thing and have zero regrets and didn't have support.

One you are definitely not too old, two every pregnancy is different and I'm guessing your doubts are because you care and are an amazing mum and that won't change. Try to relax and enjoy it all. I am lucky enough now to have just had a second grandchild he has a great 8 year old big sister and two fabulous uncles and a crazy auntie on the Mums side. You baby will have a lovely family to welcome them.

Is the relationship new? Do your family know the father well?

Yep been together 3 years and him and my family get in very well

What exactly are they worried about? They must have said.