Gormless punters

[Gettingbysomehow]

I recently tried dating again in my 60's. I wish I hadn't bothered.
I didn't get as far as even messaging anyone back.
All the initial contacts from them were
Hi
Hey there
Yo (yes really)
and nothing else.
If they are so gormless they can't think of anything to say but hi then I can't be bothered to respond.
I'm so sick of one word introductions. Have they never heard of copy and paste or at least a workable sentence?
I don't think I'll bother again.

Studies have shown that the happiest section of society are single, childfree women. (There are many articles about it online)

Enjoy the bliss of being free of men.

Have you tried the Burned Haystack method?

Admittedly I've never done online dating, but what's wrong with a one word opener? Isn't that how most conversations start?

"Hi"
"Hello"
"Actual conversation goes here"

If they'd not come up with anything interesting to say after the initial Hello, then I can understand binning them off, but as an opener, there's a reason its a classic surely?

(Also, I'll admit I'm partial to a Yo! But probably not to someone I've never met. Mostly these days I use it because it utterly befuddles our CEO)

What are your initial contacts to other people on there?

Punters are customers aren’t they?

No what is it?

If I do contact them Ill say something like your profile looks interesting, we have common interests would they like to chat or whatever not "hi". Make a bloody effort ffs.

Because it puts the onus on the recipient of ‘hi’ to carry the conversation and be engaging. It’s lazy. If the person responding also just says ‘hi’ nobody is going to get very far.

But again, isn't that how most conversations go? First person says Hi, second person says Hi back, and then the actual conversation begins? The onus hasn't left the first person to actually get the ball rolling.

As I said, I've not done internet dating, so I suppose I'm still looking at this from a real life perspective. I could learn a lot about my chances by saying Hi to the woman stood next to me at the bar, and gauging the enthusiasm of the Hi I got back. However over text I suppose over it conveys almost no useful information.

Punters made me think this was going to be another sex worker ama

@Gettingbysomehow , they mean well but it's not exactly inviting conversation is it.
I had a go and with the ones I spoke to it was pretty obvious why they were single.

Digital conversion is a different matter entirely though. It gives nothing to reply to, and as I said shifts the onus onto the other person to pick it up.

In person, you also have body language, eye contact (or lack of) tone of voice to interpret. You get none of that online just a a two letter word.

Plus, women get flooded with messages online ‘hi’ isn’t likely to make any kind of impression.

You'd say something like Hi @Gettingbysomehow . I'm Jack and I see on your profile that you [like hiking or whatever]. Where do you go hiking?

Then OP would reply something like Hi Jack, good to hear from you. I see you've done the coast to coast recently. That sounds amazing. What did you enjoy best about it?