Just a question but has anyone experienced an ex to say horrible things about not just you but the children you share as well? Like call them names? He called them rejects and told me he doesn't want to be a father and he never will be, he has repeatedly accused me of tricking him into being a father and trapping him (he said this repeatedly during our relationship as well) he said to never contact him again and I should only contact him if it's an emergency and he will “help” otherwise don't ever contact him again and blocked my number, he told me they are not his responsibility and I “chose to have them and didnt have to”. He has called them names and said why do I want him to be around plenty of dads don't see their kids so why do I care, he said I only want him to see them because I have “no family”. My daughter needed a tooth removed and when he found out he said I had done it on purpose to force him to be around (I didn't shes autistic and it was a baby tooth and I struggle to get her to brush her teeth due to sensory issues) anyway he went away for a few years and didn't see them then came back and said he didn't mean any of it? But I'm struggling to let it go, is it possible he didn't mean it? Why would he say it can you say stuff like this and not mean it? He doesn't understand why I can't be friends with him and forgive it all and he tries to talk like we are friends but I can't be friends with someone who said all that nasty stuff not about me but about our children. Am I unreasonable to not let this go? He claimed it was down to a mental illness I don’t have much experience with mental illness but can it cause you to say all this awful stuff and not mean it? He told me other women would be understanding and more forgiving.