How to tell children about separation

[icantremembermylastusername]

My husband and I have decided to seperate; no big drama/fight, I’ve just realised I can’t drag him through life anymore and that we both deserve to be happy. I actually feel a massive sense of relief about the separation, but dread telling the kids (4 and 6) - my girl, in particular.

So, does anyone have any advice for telling the kids? Or supporting them through the transition?

thanks in advance!

I'll probably get shot down for this but I split in the same way when my kids were very similar ages (6&3). We never actually told them we were splitting up. Their dad bought a new house, they obviously knew that bit and we bigged it up to them that they'd spend a few nights in the new house a week. They didn't really question it, I was at their dad's house often enough because I was helping him move in etc so they still saw us together and never saw any arguments or got the feeling we had 'split'. I felt like sitting them down and telling them 'the big news' would have been hugely traumatic for them with so many questions we couldn't answer. As it is, they vaguely remember their dad getting the new house but that's about it. They obviously realised in time but there wasn't a big 'moment'

This is a useful resource I think, you may be able to pick out some tips that are relevant to your own particular circumstances

https://amicable.io/tell-kids-youre-getting-divorced?utm_device=m&utm_adgroup=&utm_source=google&utm_medium=ppc&utm_campaign=PMax&utm_term=&hsa_cam=22321319758&hsa_grp=&hsa_mt=&hsa_src=x&hsa_ad=&hsa_acc=6105384446&hsa_net=adwords&hsa_kw=&hsa_tgt=&hsa_ver=3&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=22593506798&gclid=Cj0KCQjwm6POBhCrARIsAIG58CJP1r7v3-msQ-XmyFwCuRdUttbZ08WRKCJpGgnSMb06UqnQFY0dWuEaAlhsEALw_wcB