My husband and I have had quite a traumatic marriage, we have had to do with very health related stuff, existential to be honest in a way. We have dealt with it so differently and have struggled with communication and I gets even worse. I don’t know what the right thing to do is. I cannot bare the thought of a broken family and being away from my children who are young and also cannot bare such a quiet house, where we converse about kids and logistics. The trauma we went through has taken its toll, it has also added such a confusing layer over the fact that we probably weren’t a great match. Sorting out what is the health related issues and what relates more to a different approach to relating and general incompatibility has us at a standstill. Neither wanting to leave kids or abandon our family or have the children moving from house to house but also no improvement in our relationship. I honestly don’t want to leave my kids 50% of the time. I cannot find any peace in my mind and it is wearing me down. He is a good man and good father, but the loneliness is horrendous, however the loneliness I will inflict on my kids and I if we move elsewhere feels equally as bad. Does anyone have any thoughts or experience please?