Single mum in new relationship an hour away

[Crazyblondie]

Hey guys.can I ask how eveyone else manages. I had to move an hour away from new partner into social housing. We talk and exchange messages all week and see eachother weekends but I am really struggling being a single mum of two boys on my own ,its tough. We have spoken about when the time is right for moving in but at the moment its deffinatley not the right time. I was married for half my life and got thrown into single mummy life and new area,fresh start on my own with a baby and child.my ex husband took eveything and our house over our heads and left for prison and me on my own and nothing to call mine.I think the reason I was upset today was the sudden realisation that this is bloody hard on my own and I didnt want this for myself,i didnt ask for it and i didnt have a family to be left and cheated and hurt as i was,odd as ive been in our new life for 2 years but it suddenly hit me.My partner has a child of his own and lives and hour away now. I just feel we live such seperate lives but im hoping this is a normal feeling fot alot of single parents in new relationships? Half my life im used to someone being there full time.how do you cope on particularly bad days as solo parents.

I feel like this is more about finding yourself single-handedly raising a family rather than long distance relationship so it may be helpful not to conflate these two issues. Otherwise you may unintentionally destabilise your relationship with your new partner even though there may not be anything wrong with your setup.
The bloke I am seeing lives just over an hour away and we spend a lot of time chatting on the phone Vs text messages. We often meet half way for a lunch or dinner and spend child-free weekends together which does mean seeing each other twice a week most weeks. It's very very workable.
You have just had a massive change. It takes time to settle into it and it makes sense that you will need some time and support to adjust to your new normal. So take the pressure off yourself, talk to your guy about how you are feeling and take things slowly.