How can we help our 7-year-old stop people pleasing and assert himself?

[dadmumplus10]

Child aged 7 years - chronic people pleaser - struggles to assert himself with peers and adults - why?? How do I/we help navigate him out of this. The SEN teacher mentioned it to us.

Define “assert”. What is he doing here that is causing concern, any examples ?

7!

Role play is good at this age.

Role play is good at this age.

Not really a relationship issue

Does he have SEN?

Can he tell you what he wants?

Does he see you modelling the behaviour that you want to see from him?

Op it depends, what do you mean by people pleaser? On mn people react so strongly to it but tbh if you have a group of ‘leaders’ (ie the people who push to the front) and you decide to keep the peace and go with what they say is it really a big deal? My dad was always telling me to assert myself, but I let my piece be said when needed and then more often went along with what was suggested because it didn’t bother me enough to say anything.

It all depends if course and of course there is a middle ground but I’d rather a people pleaser than a ‘my way is best’ child anyday!!

What?