I would usually speak to his family who know him best about him, but I don't want to tire them doing that for everything.
I remember the first time we fought it was because he thought I had said something offensive but it was a big misunderstanding as he had misheard - when he's in a bad mood he prefers to be on his own for a few hours then pretends like everything is ok. I am the same but we can then talk about it after we've both calmed down.
This argument is over children as I had told him I hated them so he thought I didn't really want any or only just one, but to be honest I just don't want to live with children like the ones I know who are feral and badly brought up, always screaming and misbehaving - that's what I meant.
He has a big family, a lot of siblings and two of them have autism and are always screaming and don't let him sleep, so at most he wants one child but I always envisioned having more of them. I can't imagine having just one child and never getting to go through that again.
He is ill right now so I feel bad about it but I don't want to be around him right now either as I asked him if he wants a cuddle and he said no just to spite me (he loves cuddles) because I said I wanted more children.