Dating… am I being ridiculous

[pawzextend]

Newly dating… six weeks. We’ve only started to phone call each other both suggesting it . We see each other once or twice per week and also text and send voice notes .
So I text at five to say I was free for a chat if he was. He said he was out shopping with his daughter who lives with him but would call later if it suited me .His son arrives home from uni this evening. He also stays with him.
He still hasnt returned the call yet he knows I go to sleep early. I’m due to see him
tomorrow. We live far apart.
Am I being ridiculous ?

Yes

I'd put it down to his son coming home. I'd text to say you hope he's having a good evening with his son and you'll see him tomorrow as you're going to bed.

Kindly yes. But I think you know that. He’s out with his daughter and then his son arrives home tonight. You are also seeing him tomorrow. He’s being a Dad and spending time with his kids. Exactly as a good parent would do. Put MAFS on or something and don’t message him. You are BU.

Oh come on, he’s busy. Drop the paranoia or you’ll be unhappy. Go to bed and sleep.

is there really any need to speak on the phone when you’re seeing each other tomorrow anyway?

I absolutely loathe phone calls anyway though.

Yea very needy. Leave him to enjoy his evening with his children!

A bit, yes.

Sorry yes he’s probably catching up with his son.

Yes .
Very ridiculous.

Very ridiculous. Go to bed and see him tomorrow.

FFS his son has arrived home from uni. He is probably catching up with him (as he should be!)

I am sure you can catch up with each other tomorrow.

Yes you're being ridiculous. He has two kids and a life and you expect him to return a call within four hours?! It's not his fault you go to bed early.

Yes. You’re very needy. My DS is back from uni and there’s no way I’d prioritise a chat with a date over catching up with him. You need to calm yourself down or you’ll sabotage this.

Yes you’re being ridiculously needy. If you want to push him away then this is the way to do it.

Let him have time with his kids and see him
as planned tomorrow.

Yes.

You’re about to sabotage this relationship before it has even begun. I’m guessing you have quite a traumatic dating history?

The only way you’re going to have any chance of a healthy relationship is if you learn to tell the difference between a red flag and a perfectly innocent case of him getting caught up with his children.

Nailed it. Brilliant post

I'd just add - grow up, @pawzextend

Yes you are. And also a bit childish. Is he expected to remember your bed time, despite being quite busy with family? Sometimes one doesn't realise the time when we've been catching up with family/ friends. Hope you are not going to sulk about this tomorrow on your date.

He lives far away so I’d cut your losses now and find someone local! Yes you are being daft but the whole relationship is daft anyway

You need to relax a bit, you’ve only been dating a few weeks.

That’s nothing in the grand scheme of things, still very much in the casually getting to know eachother phase. You both have your own lives and other commitments.

I think it’s a good thing that he’s prioritising his children, he may have just forgotten that he said he would call.

You’ll see him tomorrow anyway, it’s no big deal.

In this situation I’d just text and say I’m off to sleep now see you tmo x

This is what it will be like dating someone with kids. You won't be their priority. EVER.

Yes - BUT, it doesn't take much for him to message does it?